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you know in life you meet a person that you like you want to know them so you start running the basis you introduce yourself you learn who this person is, see if knowing this person is good for the both of you see what this person intentions are you make your intentions clear.
2nd base you share your experiences thoughts you express what's important to you and try to get that person to be comfortable began to try and understand create a bond develop feelings of love caring learn what you can give learn what you can take learn what can stay the same.
3rd base you start doing thing with this person you express how you feel with them you open your mind your heart your time your space and just when you think its right you take it home you carry on with your lives together it's you and that person against the world your sure of it.
AT LEAST THATS WHAT YOU THOUGHT then this person very sweetly informs you that they walk on egg shells around you afraid of your reaction that you could be a little more understanding and that you might wanna be a little less stubborn and any disagreement you thought got settled wasn't it was given the benefit of doubt only not to upset you further so that you wont say f*ck IT, then you realize wow am I really like this person says and you look back try to figure out where and how this went wrong for the other person but most of all you reflect on yourself are you really in need of a self check and change or did this person seriously misinterpret you.
confusedI'LL BE PICKING UP MY FACE NOWblues
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Interesting thoughtslightbulb All of us can be at times so ruped up within our own thoughts how we see things,ourselves and others that we may miss out to listen more the other side -without rushing to make conclusions but the responsibility from each communicator is to state things clearly for the benefit of better understanding so if there is misinterpret things you both need to clarify both sides should participate as one can not do without the other hug
ENIGMA

your comment means so much right now and it's all so true, it makes all the sense in the world however I am deep in my feelings right now and nothing I am thinking is good it is something hard when you have to take a look at yourself .
and if though this last part isn't going to make any sense to you it's very ironic your in Melbourne, Victoria Australia wave
start again ....by learning from your mistakes ...how's your mum now ? ...wave
virgo

mom is doing well she's back to work back to living her life she has accepted that she has very little time left shes getting her affairs in order and loving her family more. thank you for asking. wave
Please don't be too harsh on yourself comfort Life sometimes seems full of mistakes;some are deliberate,some are not and I've have heard is said that it is these human foibles which endear men to their ladies,and ladies to their menfolk.
The world would be a poorer place if we didn't make mistakes at which we can laugh -and learn ! hug I know this is not laughing matter to you now but one day it may be when you look back and for now you may just try to look from a bit different angle and try to accept your stringth and weknesses as part of you're beauty celebrating You wine He shouldn't be too judgmental if he cares enough for you but at times we do need an "wake up call" that you could try to take in positive way "what can you do differently" and he is not exception in the same question but I would suggest to give it at rest for little time and see how he 'breads' and you listen what he has to say and don't rush... wink At the end everything turnes out for some greater good in learning about ourselves and others teddybear
that's great news ....she will be telling you all sort's of stories and digging out all those cooking recipes ...and sorting out all her bits and pieces ....wave
knenagh

I understand what your saying in this case it is a begging no looking back here only looking forward with this person I am a bit hurt but not through
beginning not beggingrolling on the floor laughing
go for it than leah...wishing you the best of luck wine
That's understandable Leah, more luck next time. hug
At least you were able to identify that there might be something not exactly right with your previous views with life. That is a very significant beginning. You cannot fix any problems if you fail to recognize the problems. I went through a similar thing in life as you describe. What helped me is to be honest with myself and listening to people I know/knew I could trust.

Good luck with your transformation to the better.

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johnny

yes I am not giving up on this my special guy is worth all that I can give just a little bump in the road and yes we all must do some changing
I am more than amazed to learn you like "chess". That's great in my view.
Sorry I am off the context and blog because I am for the time being in a "suspended mood about these serious activities" and so 'no comment on the blog subject.
....Otherwise I understand you have taken up a great issue of immense importance. thumbs up
Leah, wow, I am reliving my life with you from my previous relationship, which I can say, never before in my life have I ever experience it.

I can relate to you very closely if not eerily exactly. You see when we fall in love Leah, we do have so many defined expdectations and reservations at the same time. We are so afraid. We are so on guard because we don't want to be hurt and more importantly, we don't want to fail. In so doing, we seem to lock away ourselves to who we truly are. But when the moment of revelations are happening and we are finally finding who we are with, we seem to fill the puzzle much like, okay, I can be this, and I can be that. But knowing yourself, it wouldn't truly work, because that is who you are. While we can assimilate all those vibrations and or hints, and or flags and signals, we can't simply put ourselves in a bubble and wait for it to explode. We have to be honestly and very up front about who we are. Now if the person you love is telling you how he feels and you are willing to change and or accommodate his request then it is good. That means that you are willing to tread a road so strange and so new to your path.

It takes a while to know who we are with this person, simply because of the contrast of who you think you are and how you lived all your life and now someone close to you is telling you how they feel. Not that you would change for them, but are you changing for yourself? That is the question?

I didn't.. hence the beautiful, passionate relationship of mine ended and I will not look any other way. But I have learned who I shouldn't have been with him..

I hope I didn't complicate you even more my dear.

Good luck, all that matters is for you. Are you happy? Or are you comfortable. Because, in reality, we can change but there is got to be the willingness for you to do it regardless of how much others tell you to change..

Take care my dear,.
lindsy

lol no dear you didn't confuse me and I like your comment very well I understand you and thank you for your comment.
Hi Leah
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ioatoo

yes I love chess, do you play? and if so online offers the game
catfoot

rolling on the floor laughing hey catfoot, how you doing great I hope,is this your shortest comment yet.tongue
Chess is my infatuation. I play online and also with the best of engines 'like Deep Rybka 4', 'Komodo 5', 'Houdini 3 Pro' on my PC. Do you know there is a fierce competition in India, a lot of big players. Actually I am planning to participate in National Championship to be held in December.
Leah and Iotaoo, I have been the representative of my College in Competing for college tournament in chess, but I shun away when my brother died because he was the only one who can't defeat me...

Now I am rusty but we can play this weekend Leah..

Call me...
Phyllis Yes you told about it. Great! One more addition and now we are three chess players. There may be others, may be! handshake
You sound confident...may be you are better...by the way which player fascinates you the most, my favorite is Bobby Fischer. handshake
lindsy

that's alright good friend I wont be so good either with good food and wine and talk I want to hear all about this amazing life of yours and this new found love welcome to Minnesota dear.
iotaoo

Paul Morphy and Bobby Fischer
"Morphy treats chess with the seriousness and conscientiousness of an artist … For him a game of chess is a sacred duty." - Adolf Anderssen
"Morphy was probably the greatest genius of them all." - Bobby Fischer
I miss we could witness a game Morphy v/s Staunton.
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