Love And Hate
I was always under the impression that love and hate was the same emotion; just opposite ends of the scale but I was wrong.
I have learned that people can both love and hate somebody with the same intensity. This is more often so with women (no intention here of bashing women), while men rather tend to dislike.
Hate is a dangerous emotion and it consumes more energy than anything else. It will eat you up from the inside and spit you out as an empty shell when it has burned out, leaving you bitter and lonely. You can never be happy as long as you carry hate in your heart; it is all consuming.
When you love and hate the same person, nothing – not even the death of that person – can satisfy the urge for revenge. Death will only rob you of the object of your hate and leave you empty. Therefore you would help such a person if possible if his life was in danger.
When a man dislikes somebody intensely enough he will enter a stage of feeling nothing for that person. No love, no hate, no dislike, just nothing. The person would not exist in his life and he could not be bothered if the person was alive or not. A far more dangerous emotion or rather lack of emotion. He would literally feel nothing for the person.
If you walk around with hate in your heart, get rid of it; before it consumes you. It will imprison your heart and ransom your soul.
Enjoy this happy day.
Comments (105)
I've always said that love and hate are emotions. When nothingness sets in, that's the end of it.
There's a very fine line between love and hate, both passionate emotions.
Lekker dag vir jou
2nd Lesson abt love and hate. I dont curse my enemies but only hate.
When I hate someone, I treat them like thw wind but nothing. I will not to and consume my energy for that, Many other things need my energy, so dont waste it for nothing...
he will never win anything... he is the loser he lost all the good years with his son...
I very much agree with you on that....
People with hatred in their hearts will never find peace at all..
No peace at heart
No peace in the mind
No peace at home
No peace in whatever we do
I have been through it and I had to forgive the person in order to live a normal and peace life with inner self....
So my motto in life now is to try and not hate any persons....Mind you, I pray alot for whoever that hates me though....
Hope you are keeping well...I miss you...
It is because of that fine line and the rapidness they can switch from one to another that made me think it was the same emotion. But if it was the same emotion they could not coexist at the same time.
Don't hate, it takes too much energy. Rather feel nothing if you must. But it is still best to forgive and move on.
I don't know how to answer you; for you are bound to latch onto whatever I say and make a discussion of it in your normal caustic way.
But I did not attribute hate to woman; I said they are more prone to hate than men and if you read the blogs with objectivity every day, you will see it too. And I did not exclude men from hating; I suggested that they are less likely to do so.
With regards to the last part of your comment, I fear I do not understand what you are trying to impart there.
If you want to make a woman bashing blog of this, please don't, for it was not intended that way.
That is the sort of thing that makes you mad. When another person wants to cash in on your hard work but you did right; you have ignored it and got on with your life.
Welela and myself are in the same position. I told my ex that I don't hate him, I just hate what he has done.
Geniet jou Maandag
? Oscar Wilde
“Whenever you are confronted with an opponent. Conquer him with love.”
? Mahatma Gandhi
The only enemy to fear is the enemy within, the demon that speaks in your own voice, the assassin in the mirror
In reality, there are no enemies; we're all souls in growth, waking up.
Ok, far less self destructing but let that go as well.
Maandag, Vrydag, Saterdag; wat maak dit saak; Ek is afgetree.
Lekker dag vir jou ook, mooi ding!
It's a negatively perceived emotion and appears to be negatively perceived by you. That would suggest that this is about attributing something negative to women more than men.
If your experience of hate is to do with your perception of other people experiencing it (particularly if that's through this technology based written medium), is it possible that the people (more often women according to you) aren't experiencing the emotion of hate at all?
If left to describe their feelings themselves, might they not describe anger, distress, frustration, feeling upset, or other emotions?
I would suggest therefore, that your interpretations of other people's emotions are potentially as much to do with your value framework (and perhaps as psychodynamic theory would suggest) and personal experience as it is to do with the women you (more often) perceive as exhibiting the emotion of hatred.
I wonder why you felt the need to attribute the emotion as more often exhibited by women, when you might have simply discussed hatred without that qualification.
It is never easy to take that first step but always worth the trouble.
To forgive your enemies must be one of the oldest philosophies around. Even the Bible suggest the we should bless our enemies and not hate them.
You have made your point and your opinion is noted.
I hope you enjoy the rest of your day and find something more productive to occupy your mind.
Nice blog! Probably the two most volatile emotions are: love and hate!
By the way, "hell hath no fury like a woman's scorn"!
Have a nice day!
and you love what you cant hate.
some people are all or nothing programmed.
Good blog, btw
which is the situation we have here now.
One of these programmed personalities got through.
and so, he takes all.
he works behind the scenes, you dont even hear about him anymore.
but he has full control.
Fools rush in where angels fear to tread.
Be careful my friend, you are on thin ice. The foundation had been laid to make this a woman bashing blog. And expression like that can only add fuel to the fire.
I should have warned you earlier.
Where have you got this assumption that women hate more than men? ..your own observations or from a survey ?
I can honestly say I've not come across any women that use the word hate..Being on dating sites on and off for over 2 years...and having various break ups..I have never heard any of them use this word against me, maybe I have not given them reason to..but also I have heard many sad stories of women and their lives with other men. who I have to say deserved to be hated..but its a strong word that I find most women just do not use...so I'm
In break ups I think men are more emotional..or dysfunctional....women look at it differently.
Thats my observation anyway.
Hmm, and the combination of the two working in tandem is deadly.
Generally,I simply believe that less hate, more love and good things will be come.
Who are you talking about; The Men From Intersec?
I have to say that most of your blogs seem to come from your own experiences..I dont know if I'm right here ?..I do enjoy your blogs and the answers that appear..I love a good debate and thats what you get with Jac..Im learning a lot here....
It my opinion and is based on my experience. Just as your opinion is based on your experience. And as you are entitled to yours, I believe I'm entitled to mine. This is what make blogs interesting.
So right, it all comes back to positive thinking.
By saying "hell hath no fury like a woman scorned", you are scorning women. I don't even feel normally furious about it, never mind hellishly furious.
Let me see, what do I feel about it...?
What's that emotion when you curl your lip...? Not contempt, nor disdain because I think it's a phrase worth considering in the context of where it comes from and what purpose it might have. I find it belittling, or at least I believe it's usually used in a belittling manner.
Yeah, that's the one.
All in a day's fun. Just some people are more sensitive than others. Old expressions are no longer acceptable. But then I have predicted the outcome. I have learned to know my customers.
I'm sure you don't want to be biased but I seem to recall a similar situation with the three of us not too long ago.
With regards to debating points on the blogs, I just don't think it is in the spirit of the blog rules nor the purpose of the blogs. That is why the discussion forums are there.
The way I understand it, a blog is where is a journal where you can write your thoughts for others to agree, disagree, add something positive or just to say 'Hi'. Not to discuss in depth or to be proved right or wrong. Neither to make personal remarks re the blogger.