EE6 - Locus of Control
Are you an "innie" or an "outie"?
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From the Wikipedia description...
Internal locus of control -
- belief that events in our lives are due to our own actions
- when receiving test results, people tend to praise or blame themselves and their abilities
External locus of control -
- people tend to praise or blame an external factor such as the teacher or the test
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Many internals have grown up with families modeling typical internal beliefs; these families emphasized effort, education, responsibility and thinking, and parents typically gave their children rewards they had promised them.
In contrast, externals are typically associated with lower socioeconomic status. Societies experiencing social unrest increase the expectancy of being out-of-control; therefore, people in such societies become more external.
Regarding Emotional Energy and Self-Esteem, it would seem that having an *internal* locus of control would be more helpful.
What does this require?
Do you feel you are your own boss? Do you feel free to do the things you believe are necessary?
Do you feel trapped and stuck in your current job or situation? Does government or culture or religion or poverty or education keep you from doing what you want/need to do?
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There is no need to answer the questions ... but I am interested in your thoughts. I wonder about things like this ... in what situations we benefit from being in control and the situations where it may be best for others to have control over us.
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It's dark out tonight
... same thing happened last night ... light bulbs are awesome! 
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Comments (8)
whats yours
I once had a school friend, of whom I can remember well how dreadfully torn she felt when her teacher had given her a bad mark, and she could proove to us that the grading of that mark was not justified. From that time she was less motivated and continued getting bad marks.
I have still not found the answer how far our mindset is really mainly built on the influences of former teachings. I think there are more abilities in us than we know, but our motivation is that what makes us work towards our aims.
My ex once said to me after a few years in marriage: " I should be speaking English now fluently with an English speaking wife besides me! " I didn't know if to laugh or cry. Motivation had been missing on both sides. But who was to be blaimed?
I think that certain events in our lives are created by others, but we can plan alot for ourselves besides those happening. I am glad that meanwhile my attitude has come so far that positive thoughts are enriching my everyday life.
Personal responsibility ... I have known some... like your story of your friend in school... who consider all bad results as being outside of their control and caused by someone else. Some feel like a continual victim... bad luck follows them everywhere... nothing good happens for them... the world is full of obstacles that are preventing their success and happiness.
(Is this how pessimists are made? ... Are they self-made?)
You seem to be doing well in creating your own future.
Just checked ... yep ... still an innie.
I wonder... if I do lots of situps...
I am wondering though if the dicisions we take are a result of our experiences and lessons only, and if so, are we still capable of overwhelming these and of gaining a mindset different to that we have created in us?
I think we should be able to.