Why do men fear rejection by women?
Why do men fear rejection by women?In traditional terms, the rejection men experience is an active rejection, whereas what women experience, is more a passive rejection. For women it is one of being overlooked, not being approached
The arising superficial feelings resulting from an active rejection, is normally a feeling of anger in men, and in women, normally that of helplessness. But those are just cover feelings for the core feeling, which is a feeling of a lack of approval for who you are.
If we feel confident in who we are, we would not react to a rejection personally, or feel wounded by it. We would rather ask ourselves whether a) Did I use the wrong bait b) Wrong time, wrong place c)There is a better person, opportunity waiting for me d)What can I learn from it to improve myself .
In every other aspect of life we acknowledge that we do not all have the same tastes, so we do not feel bad because someone does not like the same things we do, so why do we not accept that the same applies in the search for romantic relationships? Yes, we may be rejected by most people, but there will be someone out there, even though it may seem impossible, that will be able to relate to you. In seeking romantic relationships we are looking only for the approval of one person, not heavens forbid, to be the most popular, or in demand. Guys share your experience...
How did you handle rejection at this site????
Comments (7)
You need to try walking a mile in a guy's shoes on here for a change. It's a totally different world... unfortunately.
- Michael ("American by birth, Texan by the Grace of God!")
I think alot of times the prolem men have with women is there lack of knowledge of what they want, there arrogance that leads them to beleive we have no other choice and also there wanting more in a guy than what they are offering. Example everyone wants a rich prince with all these hollywood attributes. I just returned from eastern europe. So many beautiful women, lack of money and oppurtunity. Makes one realize we have alot of options and not to buy into this settling thing.
One other thing. Not all women but alot go through the ringer dating countless men, then getting old seeing there looks fading and then hating on men and blaming men for everything. Its not right and it hurts the women the most. All we can do is watch and feel sorry for them.
Just my thoughts
J.D
Anyway, being rejected is never pleasant. To increase my chances of succeeding and avoiding rejection, I personally try to read her body language beforehand. I usually approach her with a neutral talk and start reading her body language. If I see there's room for moving further, then I talk about something else uncovering my goal little by little, while I keep on reading. And so on, till asking her out on a date. It usually works.
Nonetheless, I appreciate when a woman makes the first move. Not because I am shy and I fear her rejection, but because I love women that are brave, bold, enterprising...