In a relationship, does marriage make any better?
My friend got married last month, June, the season of well planned tying of the knots. There is something special in this one though, it is her fourth marriage. As I was contemplating on her reasons, I can't help but ask myself, why would anyone wants to tie themselves in the same institution when all of those that took place ended up in bitter divorce?I myself was offered a proposal to get engaged and eventually to get married, but after two divorces, I don't think I would ever want to be married again. Specially at my age, I'd rather just get along with the flow than becoming a property of anyone's.
Question is: Why do we get married? (Raising children is no longer an issue) Apart from economic benefits, does love and or a relationship function better just because we do get married?
Thanks all for your responses.
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How are you?...good blog...My opinion on marriage is that it is unnecessary...but if some need to be married...so be it...I was never one to conform to organised religion and its' rituals but some may need that "piece of paper" for security...so not sure if love/relationship functions better if married...never been married...lived common-law and it is recognised here in Canada.
Thanks my dear, how are you doing?
I am good...just woke up...worked night shift last night...having my coffee now...
Marriage is what each person makes of it, In my opinion, it is a public statement made by the two people concerned that says, "i have devoted my life to us being together".
By getting married it says to society that i am in love and will follow the rules that govern marriage.
And that is a more powerful statement than just living together.
Not sure if i have explained it properly.
Thanks for your input.
Indeed, it's the declaration and announcement to the world about a love and commitment to one another that makes the initial desire to be married, I guess.
When we hot married in a civil ceremony, it was more for just him and I cementing our love, but the family and relatives claimed, unless we do it in church, we're not truly blessed and fully married, so we did it in front of so many people.
At my age, though, I feel no more need of that.
My opinion at the moment but if I'm persuaded enough and makes him happy, I'd probably consider it. Hence I've to wait three years which is always what I've done.
Thanks again
Should have been Simmo.
Thanks again Simmo
Another thing that hasn't been mentioned here. As we grow older, we get set in our ways. So we enter a marriage or relationship thinking that the other person will change or adapt to our set ways. 99% of the time that will not happen. Consequently we end up getting divorce or leaving a relationship!
One last thing I will mention is, couples sometimes grow apart because of friends, other interests or the children are now grown so nothing to hold them in the marriage.
Just my two cents worth.
You are so right about the running away. I have thought back on my my marriages and have asked myself: "did I work hard enough to save them"? First one no; second one yes but my wife wanted to be a professional and I was a drag on her. So she filed.
It seems like you are seeing things a lot clearer now! Good for you!
However, marriage is a way that those genuinely more altruistic express commitment and devotion to another, and marriage acts as a barrier for bailing on a relationship when things get tough. But simple co-habitation offers the perk of being an agreement easy to back out of which is of prime importance to those looking out for #1.
Thanks Ken..
WE have become so lubricated by the radical thoughts of the leftist and most of the the time we can't get hold of reality due to the convincing yet fraudulent direction of those we are supposed to believe in.
Anyhow, well expressed. I gather it serves well that suit the ambition and or goal of both conservative and the radical. The former being the once committed to be the everlasting ones while the latter that of those restless and never get to the admission that what they have NOW is the real thing anyways..
Thanks again my dear Obs.
You definitely inspire me to write such thought provoking blogs if only to get your attention..
I learn a lot, I might add, which is the prime purpose of my being here..