More than just memories

When my mom was diagnosed whit Alzheimer doctor predicted all her symptoms. Sometimes she was disoriented and could not remember something she did or said, so she started retelling the same story over and over. She used to be a very good cook and suddenly she forgot how to do it. Then she began to accuse us of hiding her clothes and almost everything. Over the months she admited she got disoriented even close home. When I confronted her she said "I'm not crazy" so she made me feel very bad. Then I realized she was no longer interested in going out or taking care of her look and if you made a comment about she was very upset almost furious.
Its still hard for me but even worse for my dad so I told him once he could leave the house to be with some relatives and to get peace since she is always blaming him when she "looses" anything. But then my dad gave me a lesson of real love when he said "I married her for life and Im not leaving her now or never".
Some days are very difficult but I know its time for us to remember how wonderful she was and give her all the love, patience and respect she deserves.

Blessings for all of you!! hug teddybear
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very interesting im reading now almost the same storie do you want see wave
Hi Jarred wave
Sure I appreciate any good informatio about it.thumbs up
Andrea's Story

After years of taking care of my mother, I've learned a lot about Alzheimer's disease. Alzheimer's disease is a type of dementia. Dementia is a problem in the brain which generally affects older people. A person with dementia can experience:
?frequent lapses of memory
?disorientation (not knowing the date or the place where one is)
?lack of concentration
?confusion
?mood or personality changes
?and many other problems related to memory, thinking and behavior.
The most common dementia is Alzheimer's disease. A person with Alzheimer's has problems with:
?memory (very frequent forgetfulness, forgetting names or telephones of people close to them, etc.)
?thinking (difficulty in making simple decisions, difficulty in understanding simple information, etc.)
?behavior (lack of interest in work or in usual activities)
I learned all this after my mother was diagnosed with Alzheimer's disease. It shouldn't have been that way. It would have been better for her, for me, and for my entire family to have had information beforehand.I learned all this after my mother was diagnosed with Alzheimer's disease. It shouldn't have been that way. It would have been better for her, for me, and for my entire family to have had information beforehand.
Oh my friend I feel for you. It is a hard illness for people to get when they are getting old... at times they seem like strangers but in the same body. I do understand what you are going through. It can be heartbreaking. Your dear father is right though.. she is his wife and she is your mother, just with an illness that makes her mind do and say things out of character. She needs all your love and kindness now more than ever. I found with my mum that she remembered and loved music. We would sing the old songs and she remembered them... this was when her mind was almost completely gone when she wasn`t sure who we were. she used to think I was her mother or a nurse... so sad.
I feel for your dad... his sweetheart is not the person he married and yet she is. He will need lots of support and help. Sometimes some time out if only for a couple of hours to be able to come back and cope with it can help.. and I would say very important.
Sending heartfelt love and to you comfort hug

teddybear teddybear teddybear
I recognize all those symptoms but sadly theres nothing much to do. Just be patient and help her as much as possible. Thanks by sharing Jarred.peace
Jared, so sorry your mum went through this too comfort hug

The only good thing is .. at some point they no longer realize it and it is just you that is left to deal with pain of losing your parent before they die... for you grieve for the person you knew...whilst still loving them very much. Tis a hard illness sad flower
no wallops1964i i look site wave
Hello M dear,,alzheimers is a terrible ailment,and often those who suffer are in pretty good physical health,a real shame when the mind goes haywire..Ive witnessed sufferers but never family members,must be heart breaking for youre dad and the rest of youre family,hope youre mum has more good days than bad...hug teddybear
Thank you so much Walloops! hug kiss
Well I try to do my best but Im not perfect.Im blessed to have my dad to help me. Im still learning a little more about it everyday.
is not from my mother but i read this on a site
Stories » Andrea's Story

Andrea's Story cuidatecuidador name site i saw means who takes care of you handshake
Twazzle Hi!!
Thanks. Well she has good days and bad ones like today she decided to travel alone to the highlands and blamed me of hidding her keys. Im the mom now and I have to keep strong.dunno
Only one who is facing this Jarred knows the truth about it.
teddybear MaruQ.....

So sorry for your mother and family. But what a beautiful story about the love between your parents. Thank you for sharing teddybear bouquet heart beating heart beating heart beating heart beating
Thanks to you Theresa!! bouquet
Yes love mean care , and respect in good time and bad time.she needs more care,love,and respect of family.I have to share with you one thing that she can sometimes slap on your face,so bear this with smiling face as she is sick.And any one can suffer this disease and if we will care her today sometimes if God forbid we will suffer our kids will care us in the same way,so this is the time to show your kids an example of love care patience and respect.

Convey my salute to your father
Thanks Redwine wave Yes I know its time to show my gratitude, love and respect for my mother. On the other hand I dont have kids but I agree its a good life lesson. thumbs up
You are right Ken. Nobody knows. Its a Russian roulette so I guess the only we can do is enjoy life everyday and do our best, just the way your loved ones did. hug
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