More than just memories
When my mom was diagnosed whit Alzheimer doctor predicted all her symptoms. Sometimes she was disoriented and could not remember something she did or said, so she started retelling the same story over and over. She used to be a very good cook and suddenly she forgot how to do it. Then she began to accuse us of hiding her clothes and almost everything. Over the months she admited she got disoriented even close home. When I confronted her she said "I'm not crazy" so she made me feel very bad. Then I realized she was no longer interested in going out or taking care of her look and if you made a comment about she was very upset almost furious.Its still hard for me but even worse for my dad so I told him once he could leave the house to be with some relatives and to get peace since she is always blaming him when she "looses" anything. But then my dad gave me a lesson of real love when he said "I married her for life and Im not leaving her now or never".
Some days are very difficult but I know its time for us to remember how wonderful she was and give her all the love, patience and respect she deserves.
Blessings for all of you!!
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After years of taking care of my mother, I've learned a lot about Alzheimer's disease. Alzheimer's disease is a type of dementia. Dementia is a problem in the brain which generally affects older people. A person with dementia can experience:
?frequent lapses of memory
?disorientation (not knowing the date or the place where one is)
?lack of concentration
?confusion
?mood or personality changes
?and many other problems related to memory, thinking and behavior.
The most common dementia is Alzheimer's disease. A person with Alzheimer's has problems with:
?memory (very frequent forgetfulness, forgetting names or telephones of people close to them, etc.)
?thinking (difficulty in making simple decisions, difficulty in understanding simple information, etc.)
?behavior (lack of interest in work or in usual activities)
I learned all this after my mother was diagnosed with Alzheimer's disease. It shouldn't have been that way. It would have been better for her, for me, and for my entire family to have had information beforehand.I learned all this after my mother was diagnosed with Alzheimer's disease. It shouldn't have been that way. It would have been better for her, for me, and for my entire family to have had information beforehand.
I feel for your dad... his sweetheart is not the person he married and yet she is. He will need lots of support and help. Sometimes some time out if only for a couple of hours to be able to come back and cope with it can help.. and I would say very important.
Sending heartfelt love and to you
The only good thing is .. at some point they no longer realize it and it is just you that is left to deal with pain of losing your parent before they die... for you grieve for the person you knew...whilst still loving them very much. Tis a hard illness
Well I try to do my best but Im not perfect.Im blessed to have my dad to help me. Im still learning a little more about it everyday.
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Thanks. Well she has good days and bad ones like today she decided to travel alone to the highlands and blamed me of hidding her keys. Im the mom now and I have to keep strong.
So sorry for your mother and family. But what a beautiful story about the love between your parents. Thank you for sharing
Convey my salute to your father