The Levels of Online Dating Part IV

Alright, you're nearly in the homestretch! You wrote a good profile, you made First Contact, they responded, you made Secondary Contact, and you've chatted online. If everything has gone well, you're ready for Level 5 - The Phone Conversation!

Level 5 - The Phone Conversation

In all the previous levels, you've made sure to keep the level of excitement and mystery very high. You still want to keep the attraction level building, so you aren't going to spill your guts on the phone; however, you are going to converse on a little bit deeper level now. They can hear your voice, so now they can react to the tone and inflection of your responses.

Talk in a quiet area - Talking on the road or in noisy places may be unavoidable depending on when the person has called, but hopefully, you've scheduled this out with the person and you know approximately when they are calling. If this is true, then make sure you are in a private and quiet place when you receive their call. If they've caught you at a bad time, be polite and ask to reschedule the call. It will be better for both you and them in the long term.

Nobody likes having to yell over background noise and no one likes to have to repeat themselves over and over. This is an opportunity to show your listening skills. Remember, people are attracted to good listeners. This is also a chance to show off your intelligence and wit. If you mishear something, you may respond inappropriately. That's why a quiet environment is of the utmost importance.

Gently guide them to Level 6 - Your entire goal at Level 5 is to convince the person to meet you in person. If things are at this level, the only natural step is to meet in the real world. You have to handle this delicately though. Come on too strong and the person may get turned off. Don't come on strongly enough and the person may feel you don't like them.

Level 6 - The First Date

You've done it! This is the primary purpose of online dating services. You have used the interwebs to contact an individual and you have used your personal charisma to convince the person to meet you in the real world. You're on your own here because now the Online portion of the dating has ended and now you are meeting the person in the real world. I'm not going to go into details about the first date. I'm sure you can do a quick search on the internet and get plenty of "Do's and Don'ts". Congratulations!


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