Is this a quarter life crisis??
I'm a psychology degree graduate, yet, I don't really believe with those quarter/middle life crisis. However, now my 2 of primary school friends will get married soon. My younger cousin already married. 4 of my best friends have married. To sum it all up, a lot of my friends have married.I'm here, still trying to get my next education, and still finding my future partner (though already have 1 candisate, but we don't know the future do we?). And still haven't thought about marriage. Hadn't. But now since lots of my surroundings have been married, I'm just starting to feel awkward in the society. On one side I don't want to get married yet, but on the other hand, I'm getting anxious.. not to mention the pressure from my grandma, and my mother already started to talk about marriage thing with me a couple of days ago.
Am I having a quarter life crisis???
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What are your dreams and visions. YOURS that you've had since childhood....or as a teen....
Follow it......do not waiver from it. In God's timing He will send you your life partner. You'll see!
No stress you have youth on your side. Enjoy your life seek after your goals and keep your heart open to love for when it steps into your heart you will know...
AND... it is a mothers job and Grandma`s privilege to desire these things for our children... BUT of course only to the right man..
If somebody wants to label it as a quarter-life or mid-life crisis and you think that is what it is....then...that is what it is. :)
What happens if somebody says "yes" you are going through a quarter life crisis?
All the mental reaction you have IS NORMAL, absolutely normal. Fear, worried and embarrass realizing that everybody around you have married is also normal. But take Theresa' advice. If you are focusing on what you want to achieve, you should not be bothered with the situation around you.
Say to your grandma mother aunts anybody, all your friends are marrying a man, you, at the moment are marrying your goal. As our proverb say "berenang sambil minum air"...
When you feel the pressure, just take a deep breath and smile girl
I've told this story many times but it's always timely.
My handsome son was a shy and timid person while growing up. He had never really had a girl friend especially during the "crisis time" you speak of.
I, on the other hand, was not so good looking but I had many pretty and beautiful girl friends. He knew this and he would ask me for advice on what to do.
I told him that, yes, I did date many good looking women but I always ended breaking up with them and I had gone through a terrible divorce with his mother. As I grew older I dated less and became more selective. And this is what I cane up with.
NOW READ THIS CAREFULLY! The secret is to find someone where you are equally yoked with. He had a Masters Degree find some who had at least a Bachelors Degree. He was quiet and simple find some one with the same personality. And on and on and on....someone equally yoked!!!
He was 37 when he married. And he married the nicest young woman one could find. They traveled, they were family oriented with both sides of the family. And so on and so on and so on.....they were equally yoked.
I now have a beautiful Grandson that looks like his Dad. Once my son apologized for making me wait til they had children. I replied, "Nonsense. You take care of your wife. You don't owe me anything"!!
NF! Remember these 2 words: EQUALLY YOKED!! No matter how long it takes!
I have not pressure from my family (quite the opposite) and I have built up a life I like and I am comfortable with. For me being happy with someone is the goal, not getting married.
Don't let the pressure get to you and make up your mind what YOU want to do with your life. Although some things are getting more difficult as you get older.
I never got this picky thing tbh - I either like someone or not - but that's just me.
And you can call me what the other Indonesian girls call me!!
OPA!!!!!!!
OPA DECLARATION!!!
By the power vested in me by me (an "ahem" is appropriate here) I now declare you my new granddaughter!!
HEE HEE