Men - What's with the Confidence Factor
Why do men 'say' they want a confident woman, yet I 'hear' from confident women here, myself included, that men are only browsing. What do men mean by a 'confident woman'. Personally, I'm quite comfortable with who I am and would never lower my wants/needs for anyone. Also, how do you define yourself as being a confident man that would attract an awesome woman. I am truly curious. Back to how a'confident woman' is defined so quickly. Are you scanning/selecting words and wording. Are the blinders on too tight. Is there subconscious sabbotaging going on with unrealistic expectations. How about being afraid to take a risk beyond just being here. True to my sign, Leo, I am curious. And yes, I have contacted matches on my own and those who have visited my page - I learnt not to do that,lol, especially if a man looks and doesn't say hi, doesn't matter that his profile sounds perfect to mine, leave him alone! lol What does the word 'confidence' encompass for men. Boy, I hope I didn't open a can of worms here
I would appreciate some true insight for a moment and no bs.ps I have met many sweet men here who have contacted me to share more than hello and we contine to share. I do wish everyone all the best here
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(On another note...Thanks girl, it's been awhile since I have used those smiley faces
I prefer a woman who is direct. I like it when a woman takes an active part in all aspects of the relationship. Whether it is where we are going to eat dinner or the way she likes to be kissed. I understand that ambiguity and indecision will always be a factor in any relationship; however, I feel that some women would rather hold their tongue and be slightly unhappy rather than risk immediate discomfort and get what they really want.
The problem with that in relationships is that if this behavior becomes the status quo then resentment can build up over time. Oftentimes, the man will simply make decisions without consulting the woman because he always gets the same ambiguous response. The woman in turn begins to feel that she never gets to have a say or be a part of the decision making process.
Subtle hints are sometimes dropped, but I can tell you that I am terrible at picking those up. A stark "Yes" or "No" is what I need.