Just normal, what happened to normal people?
I have been divorced now for over five years. In this time I have sought out some form of a tangible relationship. Something with depth and meaning. I am now to the point of exhaustion with the process. I like to think normal people still exist and are out there seeking the same. Searching and just as frustrated and tired of the filtration process one has to go through these days as I am. I remember dating actually being enjoyable and fun in life.I have found at this age there seems to be many women that did not have their twenties due to having children young. Now they have become empty nesters or are on the cusp of regaining their freedom. And now its time to hit the bar scene and live it up. I myself had my twenties and now at the ripe old age of 41 have no desire to hit the clubs or live the nightlife.
It seems in between my responsibility of being an adult and productive member of society. I have obviously lost touch with reality? At this age I feel more comfortable spending a quiet evening at home with a bottle of wine or coffee is the best medicine. I prefer to travel and see places in life be it just a local road trip or breaking out the passport. I have found I have a stronger desire to go off into the woods with a tent than to go into a bar. Drinking around a campfire listening to nature is better than drinking around a bar listening to loud music.
I am very confused at this point in my life. I am not sure what the interests of a woman are in this day and age? It seems stability, security and loyalty are less preferable qualities in a man these days. Than someone who knows all the bar patrons by name or has a bong hidden away in a cabinet? I personally dont get it or understand it anymore.
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Many times you can tell the "real" age of the person by what they tell you they like to do, but not always. I get a kick out of the ones that don't even know what race they are nor the color of their eyes
I am in a similar situation as you...only thing is I just turned 42....lol.
Myself, I would figure out what women are looking for. I am using this "free" time to become a better man. The ironic thing I noticed (being single for 4 years now), is when you are not seeking to find a woman, they seem to find you.
I love the night life....live music and getting out and meeting new people. I am sure you know this but you need to put yourself out there. Very rarely will you find your next lady knocking on your front door.
As far as the internet is concerned, I would not hold your breath. It seems as if a lot of ladies online really do not want to settle down with just one man....that is my take on it. Unless you look like Brad Pitt or somebody similar, online dating is very difficult.
My advice, learn what women want, become a better man, do not worry about finding a woman (they will find you), and use the internet as a secondary means over going out in real life.
Bottom line....women decide and men either accept or decline.
- Greg. I don't think age has anything to do with it. Some people like going out and others are hombies, irrespective of what age they are.
- Most women are still looking for the qualities you mention. But these women would probably not be looking for a prospective partner in a bar as you're more likely to meet someone out to have a good time. And if the homebies don't go out, how do you meet them?
- Don't give up yet. It's just a matter of knowing where to meet the type of person you want.
sorry im off now, day done at the forums and have nothing to do
Go to places that give you interest...a walking or jogging club or signing up for hiking trips with other singles...plenty of single activities that could be fun...not just going out to clubs...just look at your local activity sites...
As for hobbies and preferences, everyone is different and looking for someone compatible is the thing to do. I do like going out and dancing, but I wouldn't be looking for someone of the hard core party people. Meeting someone through friends or groups of people with similar interests I find works best.
I would say to keeping your mind, and eyes ! open for making new friends and possible dates through your normal activities or work and avoid the bars and nightlife if that's not your scene.
Although I like live music and socialising, I will only go to events with a group of friends and feel that the nightlife is more of a meat market, either people are looking for an encounter or will assume that you do too.
So don't be discouraged, there are plenty of ladies out here who would appreciate an honest, caring, reliable guy and hope one day to find one ! The benefit of being of more mature years means that we look further than just the outside packaging, unfortunately a large percentage of men in my age group think they can hook up with a twenty something but I would like to be able to have conversation and humour and be on the same wavelength, but ultimately be yourself above all else.
You should come to Wisconsin for deer season. Saw on the news last night...Lots of young women have taken up the sport of deer hunting.