Hot debate, I need your vote
So, he's getting texts and messages and phone calls and invitations and I don't know what all else, from women who have been in his life and are still vaguely interested. Women do like to keep tabs on all potential men in the neighbourhood, we all know that.I say: tell them that you're enjoying your relationship, it's going well, it's fun, we're cool.
They'll back off. If you don't, they'll assume we're ending or over. He says: it's none of their business, they know I'm in a relationship, that's all they need to know. If I talk about everything else under the sun, but won't talk about you or us at all, they know it's going well.
Erm .....................
It isn't a trust thing, by the way. It's a complete inability to see each other's point of view. I KNOW I'm right. He KNOWS he is.
Back me up, go on, take my side
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Women don't like closing doors. (Slamming, yes)
Or maybe it's HE who doesn't know and understand that he's in a relationship or THE meaning of the word lol....'ask him, if THE men you've known before were still contacting you, would it make him feel comfortable?.. if he say yes, then he's not into you like that... meaning a serious type'relationship... if he says, no he would not feel comfortable, then tell him he has 30 seconds to erase their numbers from his phone in your presence,'and give'you the phone to destroy, or he has 10 seconds to get out of your face, hit THE road jack, and don't come back. Tell him
If in a relationship with you, it should not include ex-caregivers, you're able to manage on your own
Thanks for the info.
and people who question that come across as insecure in them selves,and in doing so will eventually drive a wedge into the relationhip,if you see his famale friends as a threat,then sadly your relationship is not going to work out,,i have a female friend that is very special to me as she has been there for years,and is an ex,but we are still very good friends and even holiday together at times,and people get the wrong idea, yet we are just great friends now and always will be,,,so i am not taking sides as that question is some thing only you can answer as you are in this relationship and no one else,and just the fact that you have asked should say it all,,,
just my thoughts i hope you find a resolution to this situation,,have a good week end
I am still in regular contact with a couple of guys from my past (the ones I liked enough to stay friends with) and they ask how things are going and I tell them. So I guess my main issue was that if an ex is now a friend they are a friend and you can talk about your life. I am NOT keeping doors open with them - they're nice guys and in their own relationships, which they talk about. Not in detail, just enough to say things are good, holidays coming up, that sort of stuff.
An ex who is not that kind of friend is an ex is an ex is an ex.
So, Calliope, enigmatic control comment, am I controlling? Oops.
Iotaoo sort of missing the point? But noted.
Edison I didn't feel threatened. Now I'm wondering whether I should? Nah.
Sola also sort of missing the point? Our communication is great. His with the others, not so great.
KN and 2nd - thanks for the support