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Part Time Lover

Hi friends, I'm in a confusion and would appreciate your opinions here.

I have no desire to marry and have kids again, been there, done that...but wants someone special to share some parts of my life with. I'm not looking forward to sharing the same house with that special someone and cuddle everyday. All I want is to have a respectable relationship on part time basis, what I mean by this is that I want to have a separate life, have enough time and space for myself...spend time with that special someone whenever it's convenient for both of us, like seeing each other 3x times a week. A part time relationship but with set rules and with respect to each other. So far no one agrees with what I want.

Does what I want debase the value of a relationship?

confused

Thanks and have a good night/day everyone!teddybear
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candykid
candykid●Ashburn, Virginia USA
Dec 5, 2014●6 Blogs●228 Comments
#1
It's not unrealistic. In fact, it sounds ideal.....however, if you remain invisible, so will he.
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Angelpepper
Angelpepper●Glen Ellyn, Illinois USA
Dec 5, 2014●9 Blogs●10,202 Comments
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candykid
That's a good point!....cheering
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Lovesucks49
Lovesucks49OP●Paradise, Indonesia
Dec 5, 2014●11 Blogs●231 Comments
#3
Nam, don't you think that having your own time and space could be good in a relationship? They say proximity breeds contempt
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Lovesucks49
Lovesucks49OP●Paradise, Indonesia
Dec 5, 2014●11 Blogs●231 Comments
#4
Candy, there will be rules that both have to respect...it could really work and will make us both would want to have quality time whenever we are together...
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Lovesucks49
Lovesucks49OP●Paradise, Indonesia
Dec 5, 2014●11 Blogs●231 Comments
#5
Angel, it would be nice to know what you think of it...would it work for you?
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namaron
namaron●Seekonk, Massachusetts USA
#6
Then its not really love ..is it?.....But if thats what you want ..Im not against it(for you that is)...........detective
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Lovesucks49
Lovesucks49OP●Paradise, Indonesia
Dec 5, 2014●11 Blogs●231 Comments
#7
Ok Nam, thanks and I respect that...I just need to know how many would agree with me...and if it could work.

There is love, Nam...just want to set some limitations.
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iotaoo
iotaoo●Rewari, Haryana India
Dec 5, 2014●41 Blogs●1,258 Comments
#8
That's a great proposition!wow a unique formulation! Definitely not debasing the value of a relationship but adding a real dimension to it.cool
I am elated to find another specimen, one was me.wink But do you know there are semites on the sites as well.laugh
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Lovesucks49
Lovesucks49OP●Paradise, Indonesia
Dec 5, 2014●11 Blogs●231 Comments
#9
OMG!

Iato, I'm so glad to know your opinion...I was about to think that I could be emotionally crippled...I'm very much sane and loving ...teddybear
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wallops1964
wallops1964●Wakefield, West Yorkshire, England UK
Dec 5, 2014●24 Blogs●2,327 Comments
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Are you wanting to be exclusive with this person, or would it be a no strings attached? Maybe you are feeling unsure about how ready you are to have a full on relationship. I think it would be a bit of a dangerous situation. I actually know someone in this kind of setting .. He says he loves this woman yet he is on here chatting to another woman quiet personally. I think in my understanding she set the rules and he is kind of happy with them but not totally.

You would have to make sure you both were happy and had mutual understanding. I do agree with Nam. For me it would be all or nothing.

Good luck hug
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Lovesucks49
Lovesucks49OP●Paradise, Indonesia
Dec 5, 2014●11 Blogs●231 Comments
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My lovely friend Wallops,

Thank you so much for such enlightening words.

Yes, I want exclusive , just want to set some limitations, to enable each of us to have some time away from each other and do our own things...fooling around is highly prohibited tho ...
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iotaoo
iotaoo●Rewari, Haryana India
Dec 5, 2014●41 Blogs●1,258 Comments
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...emotionally crippled?..MAN, THAT IS EMOTIONAL INDEPENDENCE!applause
Philosophy and religion may like the crawling creatures....life doesn't.professor
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Lovesucks49
Lovesucks49OP●Paradise, Indonesia
Dec 5, 2014●11 Blogs●231 Comments
#13
Iato, you really make me feel good here...teddybear
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Lovesucks49
Lovesucks49OP●Paradise, Indonesia
Dec 5, 2014●11 Blogs●231 Comments
#14
Angel , I'm ok with it as long as you're happy...teddybear
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Angelpepper
Angelpepper●Glen Ellyn, Illinois USA
Dec 5, 2014●9 Blogs●10,202 Comments
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Cocheta
I agree with you!
Pulse! It ain't good to have too much sweets..teddybear
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iotaoo
iotaoo●Rewari, Haryana India
Dec 5, 2014●41 Blogs●1,258 Comments
#16
too many rules though. You can't have the cake and eat it toothumbs up
Yeah! this rule chapter is the demerit of, otherwise a nice theory.laugh
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Cocheta
Cocheta●unknown, Western Cape South Africa
Dec 5, 2014●2 Blogs●639 Comments
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Angel

Sometimes too much of a good thing, is fantastic! daydream laugh
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Lovesucks49
Lovesucks49OP●Paradise, Indonesia
Dec 5, 2014●11 Blogs●231 Comments
#18
Coch, thanks! Your words are highly appreciated and might help knock some sense into this knuckle-head!grin
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Lovesucks49
Lovesucks49OP●Paradise, Indonesia
Dec 5, 2014●11 Blogs●231 Comments
#19
Iato, we tend to be unruly...we need to have rules to keep us in line...
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Lovesucks49
Lovesucks49OP●Paradise, Indonesia
Dec 5, 2014●11 Blogs●231 Comments
#20
Rob, that's what I'm worried of...full time and over time could make us weary and messed up a good happy relationship...sometimes we need to settle for less...to maintain that balance and keep things in harmony.
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iotaoo
iotaoo●Rewari, Haryana India
Dec 5, 2014●41 Blogs●1,258 Comments
#21
Love
Chaos is imminently present during the transition.thumbs up
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Angelpepper
Angelpepper●Glen Ellyn, Illinois USA
Dec 5, 2014●9 Blogs●10,202 Comments
#22
laugh Cocheta,
I'm not talking about food girl!
Snap out of it! Keep up with the topic....rolling on the floor laughing
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Lovesucks49
Lovesucks49OP●Paradise, Indonesia
Dec 5, 2014●11 Blogs●231 Comments
#23
Iato, yes and we need to be sensible ...and face it head on...
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Cocheta
Cocheta●unknown, Western Cape South Africa
Dec 5, 2014●2 Blogs●639 Comments
#24
laugh Neither am I Angel!
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Angelpepper
Angelpepper●Glen Ellyn, Illinois USA
Dec 5, 2014●9 Blogs●10,202 Comments
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Cocheta,
confused dang! Then what are we talking about? Whose blog is we on. I'm getting confuse now! I been on here, to dang long. I must leave sooner then intended...moping
Got dog!....rolling on the floor laughing
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iotaoo
iotaoo●Rewari, Haryana India
Dec 5, 2014●41 Blogs●1,258 Comments
#26
So please be sensible to put the "a and o" at the right place to write my username correctly. wink
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iotaoo
iotaoo●Rewari, Haryana India
Dec 5, 2014●41 Blogs●1,258 Comments
#27
Be aware though in some countries though, the culture may still be barbaric regarding women's rights and it may cause neighbors to attack or scorn/shun a woman who is liberated.
Ken It is sad but true.
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Angelpepper
Angelpepper●Glen Ellyn, Illinois USA
Dec 5, 2014●9 Blogs●10,202 Comments
#28
Cocheta

scold Wait Wait!
I want to caught a ride with you!...
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Cocheta
Cocheta●unknown, Western Cape South Africa
Dec 5, 2014●2 Blogs●639 Comments
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Angel, hop on before Love comes back and scold us motorcycle don't forget to grab your helmet! laugh
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Motta
Motta●Mantua, Lombardy Italy
Dec 5, 2014●3 Blogs●17 Comments
#30
That's right: so far.

But relax, every rose has its thorn wink Even yours.
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wenever
wenever●perry, Florida USA
Dec 5, 2014●89 Blogs●2,159 Comments
#31
if you find someone that is feeling the same way...go for it,,,it is your life,,enjoy and be happy cheers
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Lovesucks49
Lovesucks49OP●Paradise, Indonesia
Dec 5, 2014●11 Blogs●231 Comments
#32
Ken...thanks!

I would like a nice relationship with someone...just not full time, I don't see anything wrong with thatconfused
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Lovesucks49
Lovesucks49OP●Paradise, Indonesia
Dec 5, 2014●11 Blogs●231 Comments
#33
Angel and Coch...behave yourselfscold

It's ok...we need some fun here...don't want this blog to be too emotional and complicated...grin
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Lovesucks49
Lovesucks49OP●Paradise, Indonesia
Dec 5, 2014●11 Blogs●231 Comments
#34
Motta, Thanks!

I'll try to be more cautious...sigh
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Lovesucks49
Lovesucks49OP●Paradise, Indonesia
Dec 5, 2014●11 Blogs●231 Comments
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Wenever, Thanks!

so far, no one wants to take me up on it...

dunno
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Lovesucks49
Lovesucks49OP●Paradise, Indonesia
Dec 5, 2014●11 Blogs●231 Comments
#36
Ravens, yes...definitely a plus!wine
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Lovesucks49
Lovesucks49OP●Paradise, Indonesia
Dec 5, 2014●11 Blogs●231 Comments
#37
Angel , you better behave yourself....scold

I'm about to have an emotional
Break down grin:
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Lovesucks49
Lovesucks49OP●Paradise, Indonesia
Dec 5, 2014●11 Blogs●231 Comments
#38
Ken, thanks but it's not the kind of thing I'm looking for, I want a relationship, with commitment and respect to each other just like any normal relationships. I just want to set some boundaries so my partner would know exactly what to expect from me. I would love and respect him, make him happy as much as I can in my own time...it's a relationship with no pressure from either partner, I don't think it's is that hard to find.
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britishcolumbian
britishcolumbian●unknown, British Columbia Canada
Dec 5, 2014●12 Blogs●889 Comments
#39
Friends with benefits, someone is going to get hurt sooner of later.
One of you falls in love and bingo........
comfort

wave
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Ken_19
Ken_19●Winchester, Virginia USA
Dec 5, 2014●284 Blogs●3,903 Comments
#40
So really all you want is what we call a boyfriend, with the caveat the relationship won't go anywhere. :)
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