A match made in heaven!!!
During a seminar, a woman asked," How do I know if I am with the right person?"The speaker then noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so he said, "It depends. Is that your partner?" In all seriousness, she answered "How do you know?"
Here's the answer.
Every relationship has a cycle… In the beginning; you fall in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls, want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love.
People in love sometimes say, "I was swept off my feet."Picture the expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something happened TO YOU.
Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades. It's a natural cycle of EVERY relationship.
Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.
At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking, "Am I with the right person?" And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when relationships breakdown.
The key to succeeding in a relationship is NOT finding the right person; it's learning to love the person you found.
People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes.
Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies within it.
I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later.
Because...........
The key to succeeding in a Relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the Person you found.
SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make it work. Make no mistake about it.
Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner), Just as there are physical laws Of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. If you know how to apply these laws, the results are predictable.
Love is therefore a "DECISION". Not just a feeling.
OMG!!! Why am I sharing relationship advice with singles????
Ok, when you find the wrong partner you can still love him/her perfectly and try making it last.
Wish everyone a blessed week!!!!!!
Comments (31)
Interesting...... Thanks for sharing Usha!
Wish you every best young lady!!!!
As for that rubbery imagination, you were totally wrong.
Hey and this is me in my best make up.
Did the turkeys play fair this year??
Great blog! The one thing in your blog, I thought was most important, is:
"The key to succeeding in a Relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the Person you found."
I believe if everyone took this approach in a relationship, there would not be so many single people! JMHO
Once again; excellent blog!
I do think we have to be happy within ourselves and not look for fulfillment to someone else and blame them for any unhappiness. You have to enjoy to be with your someone special.
Treat the other person how you would like to be treated yourself and always talk about everything which is important to both of you gives things a good chance.
Lovely photo!
Thanks very nice
Love is more than a feeling and we all know it...
unconditional commitment ,kindness and respect,holding into each other
and give each other the most we can.
I have experience of a relationship that was not ideal or perfect,with its ups and downs but a very happy one,he was not perfect but very right for me.
If you found The One,try to make it last. Good Luck to everyone
You are absolutely right. If we find fulfillment within ourselves and love ourselves first, it is easier to love someone else and find his/her flaws are nothing worse than our own flaws.
Thank you dearest K, for being a friend when I needed some.
BTW, this is an "All I want for Christmas" photo.