Flirting
Flirting is an important component of social behavior and although it can easily be misinterpreted, it need not be so if you select your ‘victims’ carefully and if you follow the six primary rules about flirting.
I love flirting and openly admit it in my profile. Everybody knows me as a flirt and I have rarely picked up problems because of it.
Rule 1
Do not flirt with complete strangers.
Flirting with complete strangers is inviting trouble. While I don’t flirt with strangers, I will certainly pay a strange woman a compliment if it is deserved, whereas in flirting, I grossly exaggerate with the compliments. I will flirt with the wives or girlfriends of my friends and relatives whenever the opportunity presents itself. I even flirt with my grandson’s girlfriend.
Rule 2
Do not touch the person that you are flirting with.
You flirt with the mouth and the eyes. You don’t need arms and hands to flirt. When you touch the person, it becomes personal and it can easily be misinterpreted. Don’t hug, don’t hold hands, and don’t kiss, not even her hand. If the person you’re flirting with start touching you, move away, and if it continues, stop flirting with him/her.
Rule 3
Do not flirt with somebody if you don’t know his/her partner well.
If your friend has a new lover, it is ok to flirt, even if you were just introduced. The quicker they get used to you, the better. The bottom line is, don’t flirt if the partner does not like you.
Rule 4
If your attentions are not welcome, stop it.
Not everybody enjoys flirting and look out for them. Don’t antagonize people. If the person or his/her lover does not enjoy your attentions, stop it right there and then or you may spoil what would have been a great party.
Rule 5
Only flirt on parties or other gathering where there are many people around.
Don’t flirt with your friend’s partner if you are only two or three couples together. If you are in a public place( like a steakhouse) and there are women in the company, don’t flirt with the staff; even if you don’t have a partner with you.
Rule 6
Keep it above board.
Flirt only if there are other people in the company. Do not flirt if you happen to meet alone on the verandah or while you’re dancing. Do not single somebody out to flirt with. If you want to flirt, flirt with every body.
So there you are. Six simple rules and if you follow them, you will never get problems about flirting. Flirting is a pleasure and a great icebreaker at parties and gatherings. People will see you as a big sport and it will often see you invited again and again.
But flirting has a serious down part if you have a real interest in a somebody. He or she will not take your attentions seriously but if you scale your flirting a bit down towards that person and talk some sense to him or her, your message will get through. If you want to know which girl I fancy at a party, just find the girl I flirt with the least.
I wish you all a great weekend and don’t flirt too much.
Comments (63)
Yeah! She finally, went to sleep...
I'm usually being myself...funny...trying to lighten up the atmosphere but they flirt in return...what must I do?
JJ told me himself, we had an B/F appointment earlier in the week. Cassanova eh? Cassamovas are smooth. This guy is just bad news and I thought everybody knew that.
Well, let it be a lesson.
BTW, this blog was inspired by that incident; I just did not know you were on CS.
I DO NOT.. I repeat.. I DO NOT flirt! ::verymad:
except with angels..
Does that mean that I will have to die before you will flirt with me?
That a big chance to take. I may not even be converted to an angel and then I would have died for nothing.
How the heck could I know that one man would fall for me...I was just being nice ...
He ask questions, I answer
I ask questions, he answer
He joke, I joke back
he tease, I tease back
he falls in love, I run away...
What happy ending are you talking about? Marry the guy, do his laundry, cook his food, rub his back and please him in bed whenever he feels like it?
It's nice to chat and have fun, but not everyone gets if that if someone doesn't flirt back, they're not interested, and not keeping your hands with you is a no-no.
Flirting can be fun, I like doing it with peeps I know, not so much with strangers.
I only flirt back with people I know well enough...it would take a lot and a long time for me to warm up with a stranger specially one I only met online...I have to know a lot about him first then flirting will spontaneously follow...
Yep, a fairly good strategy but I prefer never to flirt with strangers. Male or female.
Good enough for me...there has to be a kiss at the end tho...
Enjoy the rest of the day/night in whatever timezones you are.
Usually,flirting is a part of humour, a special skill and a kind of lubricant in communication which is not easy to master well for some person. I am not sure wheather I like it or not, but agreed with your flirting rules 1-5 and the 6 .
I know what you mean. Eyes are very independent and love to roam free in a world we nothing is free. Some of them are very playful and they can even be inviting. Once of my friends once described a certain woman to have come-to-bed eyes.
Right! Not everybody like flirting and some people even see a sincere compliment as flirting. It is important that when people flirt that there is no misunderstanding about it but if you flirt a lot (as I do) then you get to know your customers very quickly.
Flirting is not for everybody and as you say, it does not make them less fun. No, I don't think we are born with it. IMO it is something that develops with your personality.