So, You Have Been Had

I said it before and I say it again, not all women are angels and not all men are devils. The opposite is also true, not all men are saints, and not all women are demons. For every man walking around acting like a pig there is a b*tch lurking somewhere else. They deserve to end up together but sadly, it seldom works out that way.

Men, in general, cannot be blamed for the behavior of some men; just like women, in general, cannot be held accountable for the actions of some women. Men love no less intense than women. Men are hurt as easily as women are; we just don’t walk around with our hearts on our sleeves. We are too proud to show our hurt.

But, back to the point, you've been had and you are now blaming your ex for you miseries. Why not put yourself on trail to see if some of the blame can be placed on you.

So tell us, who selected this nasty, unfaithful and violent lover as a partner? Whose mistake was that? Or were you forced into it

And who allowed this nasty, unfaithful, and violent lover to abuse (or cheat) you? You again? Oops, this is getting embarrassing.

And finally, what took you so long to put a stop to it? Don’t bother to answer this. You see, people can only do to you what you allow them to do. The first time you are abused by somebody, it is a shame. The second time it is an outrage but the third time, it is utter stupidity. Or maybe you liked it, some people do.

So, unblemished as you may believe you are, you must carry the bulk of the blame. You could have prevented all of it if only you had chosen a better lover. And even after that, you had plenty of opportunity to end it before it got out of hand but you did not.

We are all in control of our own lives. Take hold of it and don’t allow false hearted lovers to control it. If you allow it, is your own fault.


A great day to you all and be in control of your own life.