Coping with change
Whenever you get bad news, maybe your job is going phut, maybe your health just took a serious dip, or there’s bad news about a family member or loved friend –Because this is a singles website, make it that the love of your life met someone else, and it is serious. These stages ALWAYS apply, to every big change – not always in order, sometimes revisiting - but the last one is the biggie, the hardest of all, the most important.
Denial – You can’t be serious, we have history, we’re been happy, we have good times still. This is a phase. We’ll work through it.
Anger – what were you thinking?? there’s no such thing as innocent fun! You’re in a relationship, you don’t flirt or mess about with anyone else, this is all YOUR fault. I want to kill you!
Bargaining – okay, okay, you think this person’s special, give us one more try. I’ll change. Give us 3 months, what difference can that make in your life? You owe it to US to try, not just throw away everything we had for someone you just met
Depression – oh fine. I don’t care. There’s no point even trying to talk to you. I just want to die.
Acceptance – it ended, okay. Ouch. Joining a singles website is a first step towards moving on, good for you!
Your bliss may not be with someone here, but it is nowhere until you accept that the door closed – and move on. Anyone got some acceptance advice?
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Love lessons are never really learned, are they? Its like being lost in a half-familiar part of town. You remember taking that road once before, but can't remember if it turned out to be the right one ...
Just cry for a while, when it starts affecting your health, kick yourself in the bum. Talking to someone, going out and doing things you like and actually treating yourself well helps.
Best of luck to you.