A Matter Of Respect.
Respect is a substance that can sometimes be in very short supply on the web and I often wonder if those rude people are like that in the real world as well.
Or are they like some of the guys I know? I cannot understand how a devoted family man, husband and father, can be the softest guy in the world until he shifts in behind the steering wheel of a car. Then he transforms into an absolute road hog, the aggression running out his ears; cursing, swearing, showing finger signs, and driving like a maniac; even when his family is with him in the car.
Then, when I see the behavior of some of the people here, I wonder if it is the same scenario when on-line. Are we dealing with normally very nice people who become cyber pigs when they go on line, or is there a sub-species called human pigs who behave like that all the time?
What can be so difficult about ignoring what we don’t like, as we do in the real world? We don’t walk up to a stranger and tell him: “Hey knucklehead, I don’t like your shirt, it is a vile color, and it only serves to reveal your poor taste in clothing”, do we? Nope, we just think that and walk on.
And now I wonder if the Internet does not give some people a misplaced feeling of power, knowing that their victims cannot strike at them. Or are they cowards in real life and finding the cyber world a safe haven to say and do the things that they are too scared of in real life?
It is amazing how far a little respect can go and how quickly the lack thereof can spoil things. I think if people behaved in real life as some do on the WWW, there would have been more assault cases than what our courts can handle and more mouth injuries than what the hospitals can cope with.
Relax, it is weekend!
PS
Rumor has it that a guard dog, employed at a cupcake factory, was found asleep by the owner this morning. The warehouse owner was not available for comment as she was counting boxes.
In another unconfirmed story, 24 mules were seen in the vicinity, carrying 2 boxes each. It is not known if the two incidents are related.
The latest news is that a well dressed female Malaysian national was last seen running in the streets looking for 'that darn cat and his mules'. We now suspect that the two incidents are related.
Comments (84)
Respect is a word some people likes to forget, specially when living in a condo where all walls, floors and ceiling is to share reason why I decided to go for a house this time now having a better quality of life
great blog my friend
I would agree with your last paragraph here : "..the internet giving some people a misplaced feeling of power...and also finding the cyber world a safe place to say the things they wouldn´t say in real life..."
I find that many people here have some kind of "anger" issues and they need to relieve it somewhere!
How handy when you are hiding behind a screen, in the comfort of your home and behind an avatar...?
Then they look for some potential "victims" on which they can relieve their anger and frustration...
I think you can bet your bottom dollar that a person who knows that he is within your reach will be polite to you. Unless if the euphoria of cyber power is stronger than his fear of a possible hiding.
Gosh, I have not seen you for ages.
I can understand that some people need to vent and being anonymous makes the web ideal for that. I'd say go for it and shout out your grievances but why be rude? Will it not be better to rather seek a sympathetic ear?
to think that the last time I was drove so crazy living in an apartment were a couple in their 60s and I was in my late 40s I had to sell and leave, like I said, some people just like to have fun.
True but with the blood flowing there is always a few bloggers flowing out as well. Arguments on the blogs does make things interesting but it has a price.
I actually have found out that some of the guys are as blunt and impolite in RL as on here.
I do think that some people are not brave enough to come out with these things in public, but they they will here. I some cases forum and blogs gives a good indication of who people are.
While it is true that most the ill behavior come from the faceless, there are some very pleasant people who prefer not to show a pic. And then there are some with pictures (fake?
Even here in blog land...we form relationships...so not really understanding of some who post here...their hateful blogs or comments...some to me are just child like while others have a different agenda...well...we can always block and delete...
Hmm!
Or what the call 'killed by friendly fire'.
I have never seen a bullet smiling, have you?
always making our stayed here a better place
that is just the problem. We can delete them but we cannot prevent them from coming back on our blog. About 2 years ago I had to block comments on my blog to prevent some obstinate guy from re-posting a very rude comment (attacking another commenter) on my blog every time I deleted it. In the end he was deleted but the blog was ruined. There should be a way to prevent individuals from posting on your blog.
I guess some of them are not the brightest bulb and maybe don't get anywhere in technical forums because of lack of knowledge.
Everyone can post something here and I think sometimes people are here too blue eyed and actually encourage people who could do with a good slap.
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All quiet on the western front.
We're adding new skills to our CVs every day. Ghostbusters, cupcake thieves, dog trainer, mule drivers, what's next? Sanitation engineers?
That's kind of a surprise
I have been here on and off, watching from the side lines..
I don´t do rudeness and I respect everybody - two-legged, four-legged, six and eight-legged, the ones who swim and the ones who fly... and our Mother Earth.
No Sweetie, I did not miss you, I ignored you on purpose.
Now, I'm kidding. Your comment is the fifth one and I replied to you on the ninth comment.
I will never ignore anybody on my blog and a valued friend like you least of all.
A comment has to be very bad before I will delete it.
Those with self respect would not associate with disrespectful people. In real life, given you care about someone a lot and they disrespect you, you will not stand for it and tell them to treat you better. To some extent it's also harder to turn your back on someone you care for. Me thinks those subtle and sneaky disrespectful people on here should just be ignored. Personally I wouldn't respond to any of their comments. Simples
I again feel that everybody deserve respect until they prove otherwise. Then I repay them in kind. People have to earn my wrath. And if they mend their ways I will mend mine.
I suspect they are 'very decent' people at home but with a bee in their bonnets. And then they pick the Internet to get rind of their frustrations at home.
The problem with these morons is that they see silence as a weakness and they just come back with something worse next time believing that they scored a landslide victory the previous time. I will ignore him on his own (or another) blog but if he leaves his business card on my blog, I will deal with him in kind.
I think I understood what you said and I not faulting you. I merely explained how I see it. The main thing is that respect should be given where it is due and whichever way your comment is interpreted it is the case. I'm sorry if my comment appeared to contradict you. It was not the intention.
ps: don't forget to add influential corrupted gift specialists to your resume
Ah, I know all about that silent treatment when 'nothing' is wrong.
And thanks. I will immediately add it to my CV and pass the information to Jim as well. His CV looks rather thin to me. He must be new in the cupcake racket.
I have realised that you never miss anybody and do reply to all comments.
I was referring to having "missed me" for not having seen me for some time?