acknowledging our mistakes

Life is never easy. If anything, it is a journey of so much twist and turns and at the end of the day we are wrung like a fabric, all too worn and dry. Then our mistakes, oh...don't we have them? With all the test and struggles that we go through, these shortcomings are but part of our imperfect life. The question is? When we do make them, do we have the guts to accept and own our responsibility? Or does pride gets into us and refuse to acknowledge them?

I do make a lot of them, but I do know that I don't hesitate to ask for forgiveness as soon as I realize what I have done.


I also know that the road to a healthy relationship sometimes depends on our willingness to accept our faults and work towards establishing an effort to correct our mistakes.

How long would it take, after a misunderstanding has occurred, for you to acknowledge such an effort? How critical is it if any, is the implication on the timing?

Are there moments, when afterwards, realize our errors, have made us say: "Why did I do that?" then what would you do to fix it?
Or do we let it fly in time and forget it happened?

Thanks for all your contributions and participation.


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I dwell on them. Silly but true.

Then I forget them and then like clockwork they pop in my head again at a later time. Then I have to tell myself. "It's over with. Forget them".

Yeah, at the time I've made them I've apologized, been embarrassed then when everything clears i dwell on it.
Once I realized my mistake, I'm quick to get some oil and lotion...rub his back then cook something yummy afterwards...grin roll eyes
Ed, oh you want to hang it in your shoulder for a while eh????

I think for me, it is better to say sorry, talk it out and then sugar and butter next...
Hmmnn ading the kiss and make up eh? Yes, it is such a beautiful feeling when things are sorted out and forgiven.

I do it fast ading and then move on..Ice cream and flowers would be nice after that...that is if someone hurt me and it's their fault...But I do the same when it is my mistake...I am not a good cook though..so going out to dine is the next best bet..
lind
mistakes are lessons...if you care to recognize this...so i don't try to beat myself up for it but try to learn from it...usually two people are at fault...communication problems as an example...ignoring it usually leads to more mistakes...wine
It depends. If it suits me to not being forgiven I just let it be. The rest of the time I have no problem admitting and doing whatever is needed to make things right.
SR, I have never made a mistake in my life. laugh
Lou yes indeed. If we can turn around and undo shortcomings, how nice could it be but the next best thing is to apologize, mho.

After all humility is a virtue.

How are your arms?
Ek, how so? like a huge blunder and forgiveness can't be earned?
Hello Johnny. I'm at awe there Johnny. Now in my book we're all human and therefore subject for imperfections and mistakes upon mistakes are part of us. But I believe you Johnny, so keep it up.

SR
Hello Johnny. I'm at awe there Johnny. Now in my book we're all human and therefore subject for imperfections and mistakes upon mistakes are part of us. But I believe you Johnny, so keep it up.

SR
Lindsy...if you don't kiss and make up with someone you don't like you have the benefit of that person staying permanently out of your life....unless he/she is the vindictive kind. laugh
That's a different way of looking at it Ek, never even thought of that. Thanks for the enlightenment.

Now I do avoid them people.
Id like to ask what you did wrong, as I think you have some regrets.
There's many things I believe I've done writing Ian but to enumerate them, I have to write them in private mail.
This blog is not about what we did wrong as in confession. It is about atonement. And how it affects us.
This blog is not about what we did wrong as in confession. It is about atonement. And how it affects us.
ok..send me a email...blushing
SR,

Of course I was just joking. :) But, like someone or many said, mistakes are a good opportunity for me (or anyone) to learn from. If a mistake I made is pointed out, I would certainly apologize immediately for it.
I an I'm afraid the wrong things I did wouldn't interest you and with due respect not for everyone to know.
That's all that matters Johnny, the learning point.

Thanks

SR
LJ ..I made most of my BIG mistakes in my younger days and yes, I have accepted responsibility for them.
Some of them were real lifechangers doh but I blame nobody but myself at this stage.
But thinking of the words of the old Sinatra song..
"Regrets ive had a few "....I would have to say I have a good fewuh oh laugh But thats life!moping
Hello there Anthony, nice of you to join.
Without mistakes we don't learn, in our own minds we feel we are right at the time, its not until you experience life, as it passes by, different relationships, that I believe you look back and think, Opps i wish I had done that differently.

There are so many things I wish I could have done differently, but I wasn't ready to learn. Yes I would liked to have done them in a another way, I have remorse for the people I hurt. It still stays with me today, and to a degree it pains me to think those people may see me as a bad person, but hope that as they grow old, they see sides to life and understand.

I wonder if I wasn't like that, that it would never have made me a better person that I believe I have become, some people are just born to be good, and the majority of those are women.

No one wants to be disliked, but i'm sure there are many who do... handshake
You nailed between the eye Ian. Of course it is through our mistakes that we do shape ourselves for character and resilience. For strength and guts. Imagine a world so unruffled, it would be monumental to naivete. We do need to experience all the rough edges of life in order to make us hardened a bit and be ready for even greater storms when confronted.

I do feel you have become such a good person after learning and realizing all those mistakes you went through. But that is how life is. It is not how deep we fell off the abyss, it is how strong we are in facing more of those trials and stand facing it with arms spread up in the air.

Thank you Ian for sharing.
Yes sometimes guilt overcome us due to our ignorance when things happen in our lives that are characterized with humiliation and regrets, but forgive ourselves. Move on and do everything to learn from those mistakes. That is all we can do. It would be so nice if we do have a built in text books to flip the pages of our lesson plan when things occur but we don't, so make the most of it and learn. Every step tread in life is a lesson worth remembering. Strive to be better. That is all I tell my children.
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