The Way Up Is Down
The Journal of Positive Psychology released a survey last year showing that people looking for someone to date gravitated toward those displaying signs of humility. Arrogance and egos were turn-offs for both men and women looking for romantic relationships. According to the Journal, a woman looking for a man wants someone quick to see the other’s point of view, who expresses remorse at mistakes, and who forgives easily.It’s funny how modern research keeps affirming the truths of the Bible. The Bible advocates a humble heart, saying, “Better to be of a humble spirit with the lowly, than to divide the spoil with the proud … The humble in spirit will retain honor” (Proverbs 16:19 and 29:23). The apostle Paul wrote, “Do not set your mind on high things, but associate with the humble” (Romans 12:16).
Resolve to treat the next person you meet with humility. Listen to their conversation, open the door for them, compliment them, avoid self-centered comments, and seek to serve them in some way. You’ll find that the best way to go up is to go down.
Do you wish to rise? Begin by descending. You plan a tower that will pierce the clouds? Lay first the foundation of humility.
Augustine
Comments (20)
Well....I'm looking for a man who doesn't mind if I get more shoes or bags even though my wardrobe is already cramped with them...
Honestly, I'm on a look-out for a guy who doesn't mind if I eat all those laden-with-calories cupcakes and never offer him one
You need to find a guy who loves cupcakes. You would have lots in common! Hey, you could take Wallops with you.
You're wrong
I shouldn't be finding one that loves cupcakes so that I needn't share
You have a whole warehouse full! I've seen them and so has Cat. You have to get rid of the Rotweiller dog though!
And so are the cupcakes....
But you can have one, Jim
Taking other people into consideration and being there for them would be a person I would be happy to get to know - as a partner or as a friend.
I believe the problem with so many relationships today is a lack of...humility! I think if it was practiced more we would have a much better society!
I agree with you totally!
totally agree...
DC offered you one cupcake take it,,at least it is a start.
I think Mimi taught her dog to count. I took one and ate it and reached for a second one and the dog almost took my hand off! Wow! Where is Cat when you need him?
A good relationship has a solid foundation...humility is one of the pillars...good blog!!
Thanks!!
Good saying of you, Jim.