{Why "Love Marriage" is always exciting?}

What is love? For some, love is an emotion, for many a lust and for others a study. The feeling of this exciting emotion has been the subject matter for all mankind since times imememorial.

Love is like a magic created before your eyes in an auditorium. If you fall for this magic, true happiness will beckon you. Love should always be blind, only then it is true love.

Have you ever wondered why the phrase is called "Love Marriage" and not "Marriage Love? Because, "Marriage Love:" is forced love thrust upon by parents of the couple. When parents arrange a marriage of boy and girl, it is not love playing its rightful role, but rather, the custom of this ritual drama, in front of the curtain, again and again, by the traditions of different communities. It is expected by parents of couple, that love will happen after their marriage is solemnised by them. But, I believe, this is not real love, but couple must forcibly learn to love each other, because of traditions, customs, maan, maryada, etc of families. This fakeness of love has a price to pay and price is costly. In such an arranged marriage, a true feeling of well being is missing in couple. Although couple is rarely happy and contented, they have to pretend this love in front of their respective families.

Arranged marriages have been proudly proclaimed by majority to be a runaway success, but the 'inner' feeling is something else. Nature is naked, yet is clothed; Man is clothed, yet seem to be naked! The truth is revealed loud and clear on the faces of couple.

Now, look at the "Love Marriage" scene. It is real marriage, absolute in its content. You go back to the times of Adam & Eve. There were no families to arrange a meeting of Adam & Eve. Keeping the theory of right and wrong of our respected religious heads aside, wherein Adam was asked by God not to fall prey for the forbidden fruit.......... observe how the marvel of Nature was at work. Adam did got attrracted to Eve, and the human race progressed to this level. So, love happened for Adam & Eve, and this was humanity's finest moment. Nothing has changed even now. Love has been happening between the boy and the girl at campusses, colleges, schools, gardens, beaches, water fronts, and a million other places. This love is true love, real love as ordained by Nature for every living entity. Do insects, birds, animals, plants require relatives urging them to be in love? No way.

When a boy and a girl is in love, there is peace, tranquality, silence, poetry, music, art in the air. Anybody can become a poet in love. After the boy and his girl develops a relationship, they might consult their parents for a plan of a marriage. As is the norm in India, at first, the parents might not approve of such an alliance. Either the girl's parents or the boy's parents may not agree to this proposal due to many reasons like status, looks, education, money issues or there can be a dowry angle also. However, if both the parents are in agreement with their children's choice, then this marriage can be a marriage celebrated in heaven. One has just to see the girl's and the boy's faces......... they look stunnigly beautiful and happy. The positive feedback from both the parents has a calming effect and add more excitement to the couple's marriage plans.

Now, the boy and the girl are in the seventh heaven! They have themselves chosen their life partners and they will be squarely responsible for their way of life. They have obeyed the law of Nature, by going back to the era of Adam & Eve and they are supremely happy, joyous, contented and blissful. The adrenalin is running in their blood and there is a positive tone in their talk and a spring in their walk. Love and romance is definitely in the air and the couple are rediating all the happiness as endowed by God. Mind you, this love is real, authentic and absolute and not fake as in an arranged marriage.

Hence "Love Marriage" is always exciting any day.

Manohar Bhatia.