VivianLee

VivianLee

May 2015

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Engaging in a relationship

Best relationships of my life were my 3 engagements. I was married once and turned out to be really bad at it. (My brother described it as 3 arrests, 1 conviction).

I felt loved and valued, I did not feel trapped! It was great. Can't imagine ever being married again, and I know I am not the only one, quite a lot of marriage-phobes here. Still, you'd think there'd be a relationship status somewhere between just hanging out together, and chained to each other, in these days of complicated relationships.

Time for us CS experts to invent it?

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VivianLeeOP●Livingston, Lothian, Scotland UK

May 3, 2015●89 Blogs●796 Comments

Scottish law had a nice one, back in the days when there weren't a lot of priests available: live together for a year and a day, and you were considered handfast. Any kids would be legitimate, you were married in the eyes of the community, it was pretty much the Scottish equivalent of common-law marriage. But as that 366th day approached you could still panic and bolt for a month, then come back and start over (if he / she would take you back, of course

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KNenagh●Aachen, Kilkenny Ireland

May 3, 2015●3 Blogs●3,678 Comments

I haven't been married (by choice) but I think that there shouldn't be a difference between a committed LTR & marriage - apart the major hassle when going separate ways.

VivianLeeOP●Livingston, Lothian, Scotland UK

May 3, 2015●89 Blogs●796 Comments

There's no way of defining a LTR, though, unless you buy a house together or something. Otherwise it is just keeping company and no way of knowing it that is a week, a year, or could end after the next holiday you book together, as that is as far as forward planning goes.

I am the teeny tiniest bit OCD, doesn't help.

KNenagh●Aachen, Kilkenny Ireland

May 3, 2015●3 Blogs●3,678 Comments

Yes, you have to have something you built up and share together.

These days I like to do my own thing and not sure if it helps matters.

wallops1964●Wakefield, West Yorkshire, England UK

May 3, 2015●24 Blogs●2,327 Comments

Hi Viv, well now I am an ALL or NOTHING person in this area.. so it would marriage for me if I was looking.. which I am not....

See...

(in my safe place

)

BUT I have to say.. the way your write CRACKS me up!!!

So funny!

Hope you find your .. inbetweener

Kn, is in a relationship with her house right now

.. getting it all ready for our BIG CS warming party..

Mr. Fly, lovely words there... I enjoyed them.

Big hugs to you all

KNenagh●Aachen, Kilkenny Ireland

May 3, 2015●3 Blogs●3,678 Comments

Jeez wallops, I'm waiting a big longer until everything is signed officially to celebrate.

I like to give things time but I'm an all or nothing person as well.

pedalguy59●Burlington, Ontario Canada

May 3, 2015●2,000 Comments

Cosmic Friends.

VivianLeeOP●Livingston, Lothian, Scotland UK

May 3, 2015●89 Blogs●796 Comments

Haha me too! PARTY!

wallops1964●Wakefield, West Yorkshire, England UK

May 3, 2015●24 Blogs●2,327 Comments

Hi Pedal,

not seen you around for a while. Glad to see you

Viv, I don`t know if I have ever asked.. but WHAT is that on your head?

KNenagh●Aachen, Kilkenny Ireland

May 4, 2015●3 Blogs●3,678 Comments

You book the flights and I have the cupcakes wallops.

Solamente●Adeje, Tenerife, Canary Islands Spain

May 4, 2015●87 Blogs●1,201 Comments

A party at KN's.... Wow! great stuff.

If the party is before 10th June, count me in I shall be there (if of course I can drag along the ball and chain!)

KNenagh●Aachen, Kilkenny Ireland

May 4, 2015●3 Blogs●3,678 Comments

Not sure if it works as a couple of walls have to be taken out Sol. There'll be some summer BBQ at some stage - hopefully.

VivianLeeOP●Livingston, Lothian, Scotland UK

May 4, 2015●89 Blogs●796 Comments

Wallops - it's a Goofy hat. I loved it

VivianLeeOP●Livingston, Lothian, Scotland UK

May 4, 2015●89 Blogs●796 Comments

So now we know your ball and chain is Irish, Sol.

VivianLeeOP●Livingston, Lothian, Scotland UK

May 4, 2015●89 Blogs●796 Comments

Progression ...

(Translation: flirt / dance, have a fling, realize relationship has legs, panic, run like hell)

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