Nice from far - far from nice?
The whole LDR thing seems to fall into different sections - ones where you never meet but have an entire relationship on line, ones where you have long periods apart but occasional meetings, and ones where it ends in coming together.Of course they can sometimes be heartbreaking because they are utterly unreal, and you never get to understand that the perfect person has as many warts and bumps as the person next door. But the sheer unreality makes them very intoxicating.
Mine broke a lot of barriers I had set up for a long time, and I also learned some valuable lessons.
Have you been in one of the 3? Is there a type I missed? And - overall verdict?
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I've always found that something to aim for but not so easy in reality
I think it may work better for younger people. I cannot see myself selling up to emigrate. I did once consider it but got wise in time. I'm sorry about the woman in question. Was she living here, it would have been different. I still think of her a lot but imo it will be folly to import a woman to Africa at my age.
But I will say that LDR's will work with the right people, bearing in mind that aged 50 plus both people will be set in there ways and this will be the main problem when eventually meeting up or living together, it will only work if the couple see each other for 1 or 2 weeks at a time as often as possible and learn to accept each others habits etc.
LDR's will not work if there is no meeting but in my opinion if there is a chemistry and love (for real) blooms then they should take the chance.
Import me, babe, I already know the country and what I'm going to
About 2 years ago a bunch of tweeters in Edinburgh met up and we've had regular 'twissups' ever since, I'm going to a solstice party next weekend where there will be a lot I know and some I haven't yet met. Always fun getting together.
Maybe that's the lure of the cyberfriendship, that you may meet one day, and you will already have a whole history together. You don't think?
There are some bloggers I won't read, because they are nutters and I will just get annoyed. Some I can't resist poking. Some I look for every time I come in, because they're usually good talkers. It isn't real life, but that much it has in common with real life.
I have to agree though the older you are you are set in your ways, but if you are serious you can work things out.As the old saying goes you have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find your prince! Good luck
Not easy meeting the love of your life online! Too many variables! I must agree with most of the comments, especially Mapmaker's.
Technically thats fraud, and immigration might be a bit techy ' bout it, i'd keep stum about it ......
What about a "soulmate" LDR relationship with "Unconditional Love"?
I have been communicating with someone I met here for 18 months now. We email, chat, text, skype... for hours on end.
He is not just anybody, but a special someone I feel a deep spiritual connection with and I know for certain that we have had several past lives together.
Unfortunately, we´ll probably never meet up close and personal. He lives on the other side of the planet and we have no money.
This is not just a "platonic" relationship, but a soulmate one and we have unconditional love for eachother.
If we ever met we might not even get on with eachother, although we have many similar interests and lots and lots of laughter, but there is also an age difference - he is 12 years younger!
Anyway... time will tell...
I thought I´d post this as I find it appropriate.
Also wishing you a real chance of happiness with a real person on the spot
Different kettle of fish altogether, though, very tough. I think it was Rain who once mentioned military marriages, any set up where you know each other already but can't be together. Good luck. Seriously.
When she winks at you but her profile says she owns 6 cats and is looking for her Boaz:
It is not always easy to draw oneself away permanently and often any lame excuse will be used to avoid the real reason.
I used to look forward to going home from work to chat to him on Skype, etc. We know each other very well.
But we never were under any illusions about what it was.
And the concept of an 'exclusive' LDR is an alien concept to me. How can one have an exclusive relationship with someone you have never met, nor maybe ever will?
We have both had long term RL relationships since we first became friendly, yet we are still in constant touch.
We will meet each other before long, and I've no doubt we'll get on well. But again, we will be under no illusions. We live in different countries, have different lives. But we still have a friendship that I am glad of, and hope continues.
I too have a relationship with a long distance friend on CS. Could it be the same person perhaps?
I totally agree with your comments.
For example, he has already booked me to bring him to see another CS member when he comes over to visit