Its all about “ME”

Dont know what it is about relationships, but for some reason, the world seems to turn around what men can do for women. You know... things like, walk on the street side of the pavement, open doors, take a more than fair share in the running of the house, and of course we are expected to be builders, joiners and plumbers in the process.

That aside, the real crunch is never forgetting the primary rule of offering praising words at just the right moment. For example... Her ladyship has been to the hairdressers “Why dear, your hair looks lovely, beautifully shaped, wonderful color, gorgeous shine”! Then there is the going out, she’s all dressed up (with lots of "slap") “Hmmm you look (pause for effect) hmmm STUNNING! In that outfit, radiant in fact”

So long as us guys seem to notice the subtleties in changes of clothes and styles, keep up the adoring praises, being touchy and holding hands when needed, the relationship moves along gracefully (did I mention the regular dosage of “I love you’s and such like?”)

I’m thinking.... Hey! What about the things I need... I thought relationships were supposed to be a two way street, seems to me a lot of traffic is going her way and not a lot on my side of the road.

Can any of you guys relate to this?
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Well I have never had it in my life from ex husband or boyfriends. Maybe they realised that the falseness would get them kicked out fast. Stupidity is not one of my attributes.
weng...
I am fine... thank you for asking
Snook...

Of course every word is said with sincerness. Those that pour caramel out of their mouth are easily spotted.
I always thought its how a man was raised as a kid. I was taught to value and respect my mother, no matter what, and that respect naturally over-flowed to most other females. But thats just me.dunno uh oh
S. I can sense incencerity a mile away. That type that thinks ur a fool don't even get a start with me. I hardly ever get any compliments after they get to know me.
Snook...

Perhaps they wouldnt dare say anything.
Luke...

I am quite sure if your dad had had his way, your outlook would be different.
R u telling me that I am the first one to tell u r grossly insencere and think women r fools and don't tell me I'm wrong. I'm sure everyone can read it in ur writeup.
Snook...

If what you say is true then I can look forward to a long period of being single.
Phew, Sola, trouble in paradise?

Actually, most women don't want empty compliments barf so why not look for more honest, straightforward women? Just a suggestion rolling on the floor laughing

We are out there. For, of course, honest straightforward guys grin
Sometimes it is funny, how men don't know how to act when they realize their dealing with a woman who actually has self respect.
It's not so easy to tell who is genuine or maybe I'm a fool.

Men are very good liars in all respects and I find the needy man to be someone who was parted from his mother as a child, in one way or another.

Women aren't geniuses when it comes to men and maybe they just want to be honest or not wish to embarrass the man.

dunno peace
Hi Sola, not all women are like that you know? scold
I personally do not want any compliment that is not meant from the heart .. nor would I give one unless it was sincere.
I have been treated with really good respect by the men I have had the privilege to know. I know I am lucky with this as I do understand some have not had this experience and that is very sad. sad

Like Lukeon I was brought up with the example of how my mum and dad were with each other and it was a good example to me.
I have 3 older brothers who treat me with a lot of respect growing up and I them. This carried over into boyfriends and marriage.
I believe often when you treat someone with respect they usually do the same to you. Though I know there are always exceptions to every rule.

Both women and guys should respect each other.hug hug
Good one Viv, love it!! rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing


And I do love myself....blushing blushing wink
Haha DC you are devil

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Are you sure your not blonde?...lol...heart1 laugh
Perhaps your partner feels that your compliments are delivered from a sense of obligation to do/say the right thing rather than being sincerely appreciative? Most people pick up on that quite easily. Regarding your needs....perhaps she's being sincere in her own way.
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