How long is too long?
When we get involved with someone we graft them onto ourselves. Ripping that graft away is not only painful, it leaves scars. I hate pain!and I don’t want scars.
Choice one: instantly apply a new relationship, like a transplant, and hope it takes
Choice two: go cold turkey, and build solid scar tissue so it is almost impossible for anyone new to break through and hurt you again.
Choice three: is like breaking a nail down to the quick, you press it hastily back into place until the nail grows, or the quick stops being so sensitive! Either the original bloke, or a friendly alternative - eventually the wound heals cleanly and you can peel away the scab and be left without a mark.
I'm currently in healing mode. I tried to hastily find someone new, but yikes there aren’t many suitable transplants out there, and I am hellish picky. Choice two: I hate pain and I don’t want scars. Currently lucky enough to have the third option, which is always my preferred way, but I’m starting to worry that it is definitely taking longer for the scab to form! After all, he's looking for someone too. Tick tock.
So - look at your scars and tell me. Which is the best?
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I prefer to move on & try with new even that won't be easy as like you said not all suiteable & yes we have to picky as we wanna be with someone the rest of our life (that we all hope).
Or if I don't want in realationship for while I take some activities that make me keep busy while healimg the pain, such language course or painting or even cooking, beside spend hours at work office.
Hangout with friends, it will help trough your time & get over it the pain.
Hope you'll be ok soon
just stop being so picky is all, by giving others a chance aren't you giving a chance to yourself too
I would give quite a lot to be young and pretty and have a lot of time ahead to find Mr Will-Do-Nicely! Tick tock for me too, where IS he?
And another thing i am not, is a NAG
Now to get back to your little problem...
me thinks you are crying more FOR yourself than you are OVER him but i think the one you are crying for most...is TIME
am i right? or am i right?
Ok, you may not be no spring chicken anymore but i'm sure an 80yr old woman somewhere would give anything to be a pretty little young thing like you..
Do you hear what i'm saying
now go out there and shake what your ma'ma gave you
cause a day will come, when you can't
And I may not be a spring chicken but I am in my PRIME.
And I DON'T NAG.
you need to through this......look at what happened when we prayed for Itchy's recovery....like a flash she was back on her broom...
and i never rant either
But rather than try get someone to fit into his shoes, look for someone that goes barefoot
I've found an option 3 coach I would quite like. I think this, combined with Acuscar, would effect a complete recovery. Anyone know of a single Elvis impersonator?
Please Ms Witch, wave your wand, stir your cauldron, hubble and bubble me up a little magic Elvis?
You and Itchy could be the perfect couple. Scarily magical.
mans answered prayers or a Godsent curse
(and if you pls, don't answer that)
next time write somthing shorter
Hi itchy
not the slim trim one, but the heavy over loaded one instead..he may of sang it well, but trust me girl...the climbing was mine not his ...
but only if you can do it without nagging
now behave you little minx you or a fox may come and eat you
Howdy do Harry
....
A rebound fling can help,
Ms Witch - Lucky you. I think.
Angel - I know this comment wasn't for MY blog.
LAN - I am a deep and soulful person. An hour, minimum.
Mission accomplished! I am Woman, hear me roar.
I can never get photos to fit on here, so I won't even try, but I saw one with a brilliant caption on Twitter.
Don't fashion me into a maiden that needs saving from a dragon. I am the dragon, and I will eat you whole
Look out world, I'm baaaaaaaaaaaaack!
And thanks, guys. All of you
Dragons are beautiful. In their own way.
I do believe every relationship that was worth having - an affair or a marriage or somewhere in between - had something of value. Not all of it was bad, surely? At the very least, you learned something useful to take forward to the next!
So many of us demonize The Ex. The blog was partly to clarify my own thinking, but also partly to remind us that we have all been there (or we wouldn't be here on CS).
There ARE several ways of dealing with ended relationships. No way is completely right. Ranting, abusing, whining, denying ... if any one reader thought back in a healthier light because of the blog and its comments, good. You and me both.
Fortunately I've never been chatted up by any of the men on the blogs, and my dragon nature will not be noticed by men who should read the blogs until they are toast
And my first husband-well, I knocked the s reen out of the window..threw his stuff out the second story.said get the hell out.
And re #1 - you're a bit of a dragon too, I think. Atta girl!
Hey! It's Cat! dragon-eater!
Eventually the pain goes away and the scar heals, problem is, I keep getting scars from doing the same thing!
Hope you find someone who isn't in need of too many spare parts & who is a bit of fun to be around.
I'm feeling pretty good about where I am right now, in part because I have a couple days holiday coming up, looking forward to that very much. I'm convinced boredom, and the loss of fizz, is the main reason I get glum at all! Thank goodness for being able to yammer away on CS ...