The place you met before or you want to meet your
Since this is a dating site,so i will just like to share with people how you want to find or meet your partner.In fact, I am half retired type,maybe it is a good idea, we can share how you want to find the Mr or Mrs right.
I think bars are not a good place,I think the quality of the people there is not reliable.
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Coffee or a meal in a nice quiet place is alway good because you can chat in a relaxed environment...
No sorry only joking Yes meal in public place would be good start
the Supermarket, just run your cart into his heel, and go
"OOps, I am so sorry, will you forgive me?"
Lately you bought dresses, I bought many things for my new house... No budget for buying fashion.
About looking, I have been always relying on my brain.
I do prefer a honest shy westerner,normal,but value families.
About looking, I have been always relying on my brain.
I do prefer a honest shy westerner,normal,but value families.
Supermarkets still work for me. No I don't run my cart into theirs. Instead I just look in their cart and ask them about a product. 'Hi. I see you are buying that new soup. I've been meaning to find someone who has tried it. Is it any good?'
Then go on from there. Or not, depending on how they respond. LoL, more than once I hear, 'no it is terrible, but my husband/kids loves it.'
So then I back off. But sometimes I hear, 'oh yes it is good. I find it a perfect product because the can is just sized right for only feeding one.'
Now I know she is unattached. I may just jump in depending on the smile and tell her she looks great, or I may open a general discussion about other products. If she is interested that will come forth, if I am not her type, that too will come out in posture, expression and tone. Either way, in a minute or two I either have a phone number or a date, or I know to wander on to another aisle. I once had good success by telling a woman reaching for a box that my last girlfriend did not like that particular brand of sanitary napkin and explained why (the adhesive backing tore the clothing). That led to some interesting discussions and later a phone number and a few good dates.
Also good of course are music recitals, concerts, art shows and museums. Church is a waste of time because it is a place full of gossip and the women in there are more concerned about how the other parishioners will view them flirting with you to let their hair down in there and talk frankly.
Don't waste time at art shows or concerts if you don't like the artist/musician. You want someone whose tastes are the same as yours. I know one man who met his dream girl at a gun show. He was looking at the Colt Peacemakers and noticed her looking at the Ruger Blackhawks. Instant love on both sides.
I like to look nice, even when I was ill, I would try to look nice.
Nowadays, it is expensive to buy apartment in Jakarta,right?Last time, I met a group of developers in Abu Dhabi, they were selling apartment in Abu Dhabi, so I know a bit.You got your new home, congratulations!
I suspect that is why a lot of us are single. In my opinion, it is difficult to form a relationship without prospective partner being comfortable around you and knowing you to some extent. I think we are a not very trusting society so people want to see to believe...rather than hear to believe. Propinquity, such as people at a job or in a network of friends really gives a person a head start at finding a relationship.
I agree, I am not so sure a bar is the best place to find somebody new. However, lets look at the reality....we are still single. Maybe keeping an open mind as to where to find Mr./Mrs. Right might be what is called for? I am not saying start slamming shots of Jack Daniels in the bar tonight and wait for the first guy who approaches to start a relationship with. But, what I am saying is maybe approach all environments with an open mind. Let that man/woman disqualify themselves before you put them on that list before even giving them a shot.
In summary, it is difficult finding a partner if you do not have propinquity. One has to think, where am I most likely to find the type of person I am looking for? Then, situation yourself in that type of environment. The fact remains, time does not stop ticking...and sometimes our expectations might not be a reality.
I have found eating at the same restaurant has brought me closer to people than if I was just walking randomly in public and saying hi and chatting a bit. The more people can "see" who you are and your personality, the better they can judge you and the more likely a relationship can start if you both like each other. Also, when I was finishing up college a few years back, I became close friends with a lot of women in my classes.
Best of luck to you in your shopping P.