The Tells
I’ve noticed an odd thing, when I’m looking at profiles. I instantly like, or dislike, people who remind me of other people I have known. We’ve talked about this on a blog before, I think one of Cat’s, that a likeness isn’t a guide to personality, and yet I still do it.One guy changed his profile pic soon after we started talking. He tried to say it was a more recent pic, and they WERE similar, but it was his nose that was familiar in the first photo, and it was definitely not the same nose in the second!
It is much easier in real life, not just a pic to go on. The way someone acts / reacts, gestures they make: in poker, they call it their ‘tells’
I recently met a guy who looked me earnestly in the eye as he told me about his single status, but flicked his ear with his hand *warning buzzer* Hey, I knew someone who used to do that, and she was a pathological liar. Yup. He was married. Ha! Gotcha!
I find I base my expectations of anyone I meet socially, new colleagues, whatever, on the people they remind me of. Sometimes, there is no reminder. Sometimes I'm wrong. More and more often I'm right, as I learn people. I’m turning into Miss Marple.
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This Tell business CAN lead you wrong, I certainly don't recommend following my advice.
Okay, that is a bit weird, but I was RIGHT!
I do wonder whether my subconscious is making the judgements, and my conscious mind is trying to justify them by picking random similarities.
Shutting up now. It's always all about me.
Not sure that anyone else will have anything to add, you probably think I'm looney tunes and should be shut away for my own good
I should probably say I meet a lot of new people, all the time, so to have some kind of quick guide is unusually handy.
an old ex boss of mine gave me such a hard time at work and all because i reminded him of his ex wife
Anytime someone sends me a picture and i'm not atracted to him, i normally write back saying i could never date you cause you look to much like my exhusband...
the lie works a treat everytime
Mindya" perhaps i shouldn't be saying that out loud
Years ago while working on an Iranian ship I met the cook who was the exact image of James Gandolfini. When I say exact I mean the spitting image of the actor who played the roll as Tony Soprano in 'The Sopranos'. He even spoke like the guy,,,
Hmm. I wonder what it would be like to date a poker player, someone whose income was directly related to studying every tiny change in behaviour? But then I'd probably have to learn to play poker. And have lots of money to lose. Nah. Back to the drawing board.