would you, could you, change?
So, worked with a guy 20 years ago who looks like Sean Connery, stayed on friendly terms ever since, phone calls, occasional emails, even visits, I liked his GF, we all got on well. Now he is single and has got in touch (not to ask me out, just to tell me) and my first reaction? YES.Second reaction - non-smoker. I'd have to quit, and mean it.
Third reaction - he gets up at 05h00 by choice and preference. Well, that's fine in a friend, but in a potential partner?
Anyway. Point of this blog - have you ever changed for someone?
Would you?
Don't think I could, or would, but he is SUCH a nice guy ...
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Never gonna happen. I don't even like everything about me and I LOVE myself!
Who do! Like everything about them?
Nobody!.....
Well! besides Pedalguy...
Funny thing, the Scots like my accent. So we're all happy, really
What they see! Is what they will be getting. For the rest of the relationship.
Take it! Or someone else will....
Helloooo.... Anybody else here??
How was your day?
Angel, I do have plans of improvement. Not because of others, just cause I want to feel good always.
Changing / do improvement bcos of someone is something nice. I always feel happy when I have to change my style for someone I love.. Not in rush/slowly but sure...
Others may disagree and suggest that this is why they are single, though desiring otherwise..
Smoking is a turnoff for me, after quitting a couple of years back - smokers taste and smell yuk.
I won't change who I am for anyone as it just does not work
I accept that in a relationship people "merge" by adjusting some of the things they do, however, if one was required to give up a part of themselves I do not see the relationship enduring.
Changing to please others is a recipe for disaster. Leaving you unhappy and despondent and, eventually, it will take it's toll. Changing for the wrong reasons could change your perception of 'nice guy'. I've learned not to do anything to please others. I've also learned when one feels there is need for change to take a long, hard look at the relationship, walking away before you're in too deep may be the best option. This should be a two way street...
But yup, if you want to start the change process from the word go, it isn't going to last. If the changes don't feel right, it isn't going to last.
Compromise, different story - I find football (aka soccer) the most boring game on earth. Yet for 7 years, every winter, I bundled up in layers of clothes and went to watch boyfriend-then-hubby playing on Sunday mornings. I was a WAG! I still find football / soccer the most boring game on earth. I could hardly stop myself dancing with delight when he tore knee ligaments and was told he could never play again. Of course I looked devastated ...