He said
"She was in a very fragile state when she came, and she needed someone. I was there and I did not know how, I just got closer to her. I was drawn to her. I am sorry but I hope I did not make a wrong decision. I don't want to hurt you so I'm telling you this. I don't want to lie to you."What happened was, he told me this after 2 months they were together in which he was still communicating with me about my moving to him. But he kept saying come next months for 2 months which in the end I asked him whether he still wanted me to come or not. Then he said he was not sure. Then I asked whether he met someone. Only then he told me this. After 2 months. I removed him from my FB and he begged me not as he still want to keep me in his life. I told him the last thing I want to see is their picture in my timeline. He promised not to post anything. But one day his girl post a pic of him kissing her on the cheek. 2 months and I still cried and could not sleep all night. So I removed him again, telling him I need time to heal my self and it will be easier without having to see that kind of pic. He said sorry for not being able to stop that pic to be there.
Leaving me for someone fragile, it reminded me of what my friend told me a long time ago. She said as a woman, I am too strong and independent. A man prefer someone fragile because that way they feel sorry for you and will be there for you, and can become a hero. I told her, if a man should be with me, I want him to be proud of me, not feel sorry for me. And most important is I don't want a hero, I want a partner.
When I asked what did she have that I don't, he said nothing. She did not have more, she even is less than me. Well if he left me for someone who is less than me, maybe it means I deserve someone more than him.
That's what I keep telling my self. That's what I keep telling my self.
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Try and see positive in this, offer your help see what he says, offer to meet the woman and be introduced as his girlfriend. If he makes excuses or declines then unfortunately he wants a relationship with the other woman.
Halv, I understand everything you wrote. I just did not understand he kept me believing in the idea of moving to him for another 2 months. They met on May, he told me about her on July after I asked him whether he met someone else. In May he said come on June, on June he said come on July. Then on July he said, I can't, I met someone else and I want to be with her. Had he told me, I would not have wasted my time.
Give your man some credit. At least he told you. Way too often on CS I hear about folks who e-date for months and years without meeting before one learns 'oh I married so and so 3 months ago, didn't I mention that? No, I won't be meeting you at the airport.'
The other thing I read a lot of here, is I had a really nice relationship with so and so. We exchanged a thousand emails, we went on skype together, talked for hours on the phone, laughed and cried together, we talked of meeting and marriage, and one day I suddenly realized they hadn't emailed me. So I texted them without any reply and when I called their phone number it was no longer in service. I don't what happened to them, I am so worried for them, my heart is breaking. Why won't they communicate with me? What'd I do wrong? Answer: Nothing except, you forgot you were in competition with the non-electronic world and your favorite person is both less than honorable and a coward as well so they are just leaving you in the dark.
So I give your guy some credit compared to his other two choices. Yes, he kept you unaware of the situation for two months before finally manning up and telling you the truth. But note he had other choices. He could have lied with a perpetual string of excuses as to why he wasn't flying there this month and maybe kept you dangling for years before learning the truth. Or, he could have simply blocked your emails and texts unfriended you on Facebook without warning and changed his phone number and never would you have known if he was alive or dead, or what you did wrong.
But time flew, people changed, feeling vanished, I guess...
So let's discuss that...........It's over, now what?
Breaking me into pieces
Forcing me to pick up the pieces
I don't know will it break me more
Or help me healed
But I will keep writing, though it's like scratching the wound
After all, the pain, make me feel alive
The wound, make me leap, higher
I am still sad, but at the same time I am glad it was over, and yes I appreciate him for having the guts to tell me though I think it was a little bit too late. In fact I thanked him for being honest.
Ah, there you have the advantage over me. You knew your path. Since my wife died I lost direction and still haven't decided what I wish to be when I grow up. So I commit to no path yet.
Hoping you heal soon.
That usually works well for a mood boost.
Take care girl