What’s love got to do with it?
The reasons why people enter into relationships or decide to get married are many and varied.In many cases “love” is not the initial primary factor, what seems to count for more is that the person we intend to spend our lives with is a “good” person that will care for us, respect us and provide for our needs.
“I always felt he never loved me”... was an admission made to me the other day, yet this particular woman was married for almost 30 years.
Has this been the case for you or anyone you know and as much as love takes many forms, is it really necessary to “be in love” to have a fruitful and contented life with someone?
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For those who can't bear to be alone and are utterly miserable when they are, your option is their dream. May there always be someone, anyone, for them to be with.
If someone comes into your life, you're attracted to them physically and emotionally, and you're on the same level as far as intellect and so on..
What's not to love
"Looking for: Friends/Hang Out"
I'm thinking this line in your profile needs changing!
I'm a Gemini, we move in mysterious ways
My life is rich - I have the beach, the sea, nature, animals, friends etc.. and lots of love and I see beauty where others may see ugliness..
You make a good point, some people like their own company so are content, others dont so become lonely.
Some people cant be alone so accept contended boredom, others dont... as they say... horses for courses.
Wonderful... am pleased for you, shame it didnt last longer.
"If someone comes into your life, you're attracted to them physically and emotionally, and you're on the same level as far as intellect and so on..
What's not to love"
Sure, whats not to love, BUT, is this love in the true sense?
'I never really loved your father you know'..
Gee, thanks Mum
Anyone want to take my place?
At the moment I am just content in meeting people without any expectations and go with the flow. If there are sparks, fireworks, spiritual connection then... who knows?
Eeeeek!... What age were you and how did that make you feel?
I was 39, busy with my family and my own disintegrating marriage and although that remark shocked me at the time, it didn't sink in until some time later.
It was possibly a situation that your blog alludes to - my mother was divorced with five children when she met my father, he was a successful businessman and swept her off her feet..
However through my childhood I only saw what I believed was love and devotion between them both, I was the only product of their relationship and he died when I was 14.
but ta all the same
Take my word for it MineV, I KNOW.
I got married because I was in love and he's good...everything that I was looking for in a man. I admit I wasn't ready to get married but I did because he seems to be the perfect catch. He loved me more than I loved him...but we did great for almost 10 years.
The next time around, I will also go for love...with someone I have a lot in common with.
true" i don't know YOU anymore than you ME, yet i see you as being too sensible to ever of done the stupid thing i had once done, and why i had done it so many many years ago.
Hope that reply satisfies you alittle more then when i say i KNOW we don't share the same guilt & shame.