The Myth Of On-Line Friends
The definition of friends differs vastly on-line when compared to real life. On-line friendship appears to be a pseudo relationship that will last for only as long as it is beneficial to both parties and what may appear to be your best friend today, may become a sworn enemy overnight.
The farcical relationship between two on-line friends displays a zero tolerance to the imperfections of the other parties. It will only survive for as long as you tickle the ears of your on-line friends. Friendship in real life is much more robust and resilient against differences in opinion or views while minor squabbles are laid to rest so much easier.
On-line friendship is volatile and turbulent; it needs something to feed on. We strive to say what pleases our on-line friends, in fact we try so hard to sound politically correct to our friends that don’t say what we really mean; all in an effort to preserve the friendship, but it real life we’re not scared of such issues and such frail friendships are not even worth mentioning.
Friendship on-line is an illusion. In real life, you won’t even count cyber friends as acquaintances; simply because you don’t know them. Yet, we call strangers our friends while we don’t know anything about them. For all we know, our best friends on-line may be perverts, p*dophile, ex-convicts, scammers or any of the likes.
It is true that birds of feather flock together; we communicate with those with more or less the same outlook, but can we really call them friends? I'm not so sure if they satisfy the general criteria of being friends.
I hope you enjoy this day.
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friends, most are pseudo anyway. Oh yeah for appearances they
are all gung ho, but when one wants help, even for moving
something that requires some labour and a few hours, one will
hear ten excuses why they can't. imo.
I don't know if I can fully agree with you. I have 3 very good friends in my inner circle. We are also mutual friends and have been so since our school days. After fifty years it is impossible to say who owes who a favor.
get a full consensus either.
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online friend too.
Make no mistake, I also have some of those 'friends' that you mentioned, but I don't rely on them and don't include them in my list of friends.
True, but luckily you know where you stand with your enemies. False hearted friends are bigger menaces.
Maybe she is protecting you. You never know what radicals read our blogs and comments. Those guys don't shoot with rubber bullets.
Good to see you back on the blogs again
Hmmm......I've gotten quite close to several people on here, mostly female
The friends on here share the same status as my friends in real life. As a matter of fact, I don't even think I have this segregation in my dictionary; online friends and real life friends. To me, they are ALL the same and deserve my attention, care and love just the same
Thank you. it is nice to be back. I spend too much time away from home.
When I make friends online I always try, to see them in person. I have friends all over the world. Thats the best thing about meeting people online. Ive made a wonderful friend on CS hopefully I get to meet her also. We are so similar and she makes me laugh.
I dont see the diference online friends, real friends... For me they are FRIENDS.
Thank you. Yes, ok but by meeting in real life, it gets a new dimension. They are now real life friends. They're no longer dealing with a cyber personality and the internet has become just a communication method.
Gee, I was only away for about 3 weeks. I visited my daughter in Pretoria and at the same time I looked up a few old friends in Johannesburg.
Ok I hear you, but once you have met in real life, they are no longer virtual friends. They are real and the method of communication is not a factor.
It's great to be back, if only the weather would improve. summer comes a bit later every year in Cape Town.
I'm in Oklahoma now! Visiting someone. And planning on being here until November. I visit all my cyber friends. Most traveling fees is on them.....
Soon I will be visiting Ken. Well! If he can get over
And by then Maybe just maybe! In Johnny's state, they may have capture that Bigfoot guy....
PS. I have very few friends, in the real world. And that is the way I likes it and want it! The rest of my other friends, are my family members. But! Not all my family members, are not my friends.
Just because they are in your family! Does not make them your friends.
And just because they are your friends!
It does not mean, that they can always be their for you! ( They have a life too! To deal with)....
I wondered what happened to you? I am glad that you are ok and back on here. We need some sanity on here and a lot less bickering! Can't believe some of the blogs I read! Some of these people should just read blogs....not write them! IMO.
Good friends are like rare gems. Hard to find! But worth keeping once you have found them!
No he won't. We became friends during the cupcake capers.
I suppose I could say I´ve made a few "virtual friends" since I´ve been here and have met some of them in the real world too.
Unfortunately, those I met up close & personal stopped being my "friends" after meeting. Those were men in view of developing a relationship!
Others are and will always remain virtual friends as we´ll probably never meet (distance, age...)
There is one woman "friend" I will be meeting soon and, hopefully, we will remain friends for a long time?
how's life? I think we have agreed to disagree a long time ago, but does meeting with a cyber friend not make them real life friends?
Just wondering.
It's a crazy world and it takes a lot of crazy guys to turn it every day.
You know I was away for just a short while. I plan to do a lat of traveling next year and will not be so regular at all.
Sure!!!? It does.
As long as you always pay for the traveling fees.....
Great to see you again. I think I'm slightly misunderstood. I don't see a person as an on-line friend once personal contact was established. I mean, does the person not become real life after meeting in person?
Is it someone we don't want to strangle?
You're a lucky girl to get everybody to pay for your traveling expenses. Maybe I must start hitting on older women to see if they're willing to pay for my traveling as well. The problem is my own age puts me in a narrow band with older women.
attended Heinrich Himmler High School together.
Did you two meet in person?
Since you all say that! You two are friends.
Are you riding in the boxcars to avoid paying for a train fare?
I can still remember you. I still clearly recall how well behaved you were and how neatly you hair was combed.
They don't have to be older. They just has to be a friend. Remember?....
PS. The Age! Was Not Posted In Your Blog ...
As long as I get there! To be with my friend ...
The term 'friend' is rather overworked and it is as you say: it is often used for people who are really only acquaintances. To me friends know each other well, visit each other, and help one another in times of trouble. I don't see 'friends' at work or in the pub as friends unless if the friendship spans beyond that.
A real friend is a guy who would keep an eye to see when your girlfriend comes while you're chatting up his girlfriend. I don't have such friends on-line. Not even Jim will do that for me.
A Friend Keep An Eye! On His Girlfriend?!
That is what friends are for.
Gotcha!....
Silly! You......