When Should You Give Up Online Dating?

Hi Willow,

I hope you're having a nice day or evening.

Giving it up?
Heck, I knew a lady who gave it up all the time, but then she would later act all innocent and stuff. Sheesh!

Oh, you're blog is addressing giving up ONLINE DATING. Sorry, I misunderstood for a moment.

Anyways, yeah.. someone told me that my OFFLINE humor was kind of difficult to understand and settle with.

As for online dating? I don't know what that is. I never started an online affair, but I'm ready. Just the other day, one really pretty lady wrote to me and she started her sentences with "Am" instead of "I am".. and she immediately asked me for my email and phone number and credit card number. So hey, I know she must be really interested. Oh yeah!

"When Should You Give Up Online Dating?"

When you find a partner!

SEE!!!!

If you are thinking about leaving then don't since you enjoy the forum and blogs. I was here for a long time and I found my sweetie here. Things are heating up and it's almost time to meet!

I will keep you all posted!

Hi Willow,

I think that looking for a mate is something that is unique to every person. Sure we all get down about it. It is like the waves of the ocean on the shore, our enthusiam and momentum is high but wanes as we roll up onto the beaches of our search. Then we come to a halt, and retreat somewhat.

Some choose to stop altogether, while others gather emotional strength and momentum to roll up and try again.

Life is all about frequency, everything is frequency with highs and lows. A soulmate is not the be-all and end-all and the euphoric cure to our inner needs that some might think that it is. In fact, most relationships have those same highs and momentum, and then come to some sort of a halt, and retreat somewhat. Then the momentum is gathered and the cycle starts over again.

Being married for a second time, I see the cycle much clearer, and at times I am so close to my spouse, yet at others we have some emotional distance as we regroup from our exhaustion of what is called our working lives that takes so much energy out of us these days.

It is also not so bad to be single, to be able to please oneself and to be able to live how one wants free of compromise and free of annoyances that come from different personalities living constantly together.

Every state has its pluses and its minuses. I don't think that there is one utopia really, but each state can be utopic, depending on our own inner peace, inner resilience, inner faith.

There is no denying that I would want to be without my special, beautiful partner. Yet there is also no denying that it is fantastic when I have time to myself while she is taking care of family affairs in China.

I think that we all need relationships, but we must not think that relationships will solve our inner longings completely, and that they bring with them there own little load of frustrations.

Hope that as the weekend comes to you, it is something beautiful and relaxing and resting and rejuvenating.

Cheers.