Discussions before a commitments
Before I marry two people....I insist that they fill out a form of questions for each. It takes about an hour. Then I allow them to exchange them & read their comments & preferences. To fill out what they can change about themselves or each other This saves a lot of heartaches.It seems they never thought about some things I say, to think about how you talk to your partner. If you don`t want to start any aruement...one usually begins with: "you never" or "you always". Then at a ceremony, I tell them not to say "you complete me". Two people should be as complete as they can, by themselves. If they depend on someone else that way, they will always be searching for their own real person in someone else, other than themselves. another way is to say:" You enhance my essence. Moonkitten
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there should be many things to consider before marrying with someone. Actually marriage is a contract. But this special fact is easily overseen by at least one of both.