Why I Will Never Admit I Was Ever On A Dating Site
REPRINT OF A LETTER, A GOOD LESSON IN GENERAL FOR THIS PLACE.Hi,
Would you flip me the bird or something polite just to let me know you're not interested in corresponding same as if I were a real person standing in front of you please? Because, basically, I am a real person standing in front of you only the fact that you disappear before I realize I am standing there talking to myself to I realize you do not respect me like you would a real person.
I would prefer your rejection to apathy to be honest. A politely worded rejection would be so much better if it would not drain too much of your energy to muster. There is no way to duck rejection, and it is kind of insulting (when you think about it) that the rejected has to take the responsibility for the rejecter as well. It is rude. I mean, it is not like you have received me as a form letter, some junk in the mail. How would you feel if you basically only received form letters here? If I had sent you a form letter, I would not mind so much being treated like some assembly line garbage. I looked at your profile, commented on it, and offered you an opening for dialogue. Instead of feeling gratitude for a dilemma of choice, you react with apathy that puts the rejected into an awkward position socially to realize he or she is basically having an imaginary conversation with him or herself.
That is a sad feeling apathy amplifies to the lonely. I would guess there are a lot of lonely people here for apathy to hammer down like so many nails. Scammers never reply, so there is that apathy bringing down the mode average of communication here, by the numbers. The weight of apathy can be oppressive if a scammer is successful filling the void real people leave here with their apathy. A "real" person should act real, IMHO of course.
By “real,” I mean adult.
I thought I would explain this to you because you're not an unintelligent chick.
Cheers,
R. A.
Comments (6)
Maybe shes not as cold and heartless as your making her sound
maybe your taking private mail way too seriously
Maybe her page crashed
Maybe your mails are too long
Or maybe the chick gatherd up her feathers and flew out of CS
Nice to see you too. Thank you for commenting.
The close up is, in fact, a dead ringer for me at the time I posted it, but it is not I in that photo. I am in the full-length photo with George Martin if that is any consolation to those who have nothing better in their lives than to amuse themselves on The Internet with their own sense of self-importance. A photo is not required to attract such types, of course; an articulate profile, specific match criteria, or an eloquent blog post will suffice to bring out these poster children for “a little knowledge is a dangerous thing.” You just have to read their postings with a critical eye to see it for what it is.
Yet it does seem women need an accurate physical representation despite their claim that such requirements are strictly shallow male requirements. So I have proved same: the face of the person on this end of the computer.
Seems to me more relationships would be won by simple conversation than by self-important harangues. But that’s just my opinion, perhaps….