I know why you will always be single (A reflection
When we are young and our whole life is ahead of us, we have dreams and ambitions that drive us towards achieving our goals.For some, having a family, a good job, a comfortable lifestyle, a partner and friends is the pinnacle of happiness.
For others, as the years go by life falls into a routine of lethargy and they find themselves trapped in a situation they cant or dont want to get out of.
Then there are those that survived the fallout of a world that crumbled around them or simply fulfilled their dreams and moved on to make a new life of singledom.
So, here we are, the majority of us now in our 50's and above, we know we want something, but, we cant quite put our finger on exactly what that "something" is.
We sure as hell know what it is we dont want. Many have the attitude of "I'd rather be single than settle for second best" as for the rest, what is killing your chances of ever finding someone to share your life with is that you're comfortable with what you've got, you dont want to change (although you try to convince yourselves otherwise).
If you have managed to read this far through this long blog the bottom line is...... As much as you may be happy to meet and date on occasion you really arent adaptable enough to get involved in a serious relationship. We all want others to adapt to us.
If you dont agree with the above............ Bite me!
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I have found life can be full of fun whilst looking for the "one".... Enjoy!
Do you think that it we know what we don't want, and say this is what we don't want.... could we land up with someone Right?
I know what I want and don't have nerves for a guy that doesn't.
I suppose, if you find someone who doesnt have the traits you dont want, then there is a chance it may work.
From what we know, you have already found what you want.... or has that been consigned to history?
but nah" i don't like others to adapt for me...
a spoilt partner within the couple is a relationship doomed to be ruined
Oooh!... I dont know, I kind of like being spoilt.
In conclusion, finding "The One" is like looking for a needle in a haystack?
On the other hand, he/she might be living next door and we were too busy looking at the grass on the other side of the fence which is, of course, always greener.
P.S.I already had first best as far as I was concerned.
I agree with KN, some of us are better off without partner,
myself included.
from here on in
of areas, and are at the stage where a partner is not needed,
but wanted, stylized for us of course. Just my take, and as
he said,....bite him
I do know what I don't want. I don't want to move. I have a home, dogs, job, family and friends here.
I don't want a part-time relationship. And unfortunately, that is what many men want. I think that may absolutely suit some people, and best of luck to them, but it is not for me. I need more stability than that.
I think if people were totally honest, and said what they wanted, or were able to offer in a relationship, from the very beginning, they have more chance of finding a partner to suit.
rumor has it, the bigger mess a woman is, the more men love it,
but i dunno
Men like to play rescuers and be the protectors and bread winners.
When they find a normal stable independent woman they're afraid as it makes them feel inferior.
They might think they know what they want until it is presented to them and then they back off as it's too much.
That's why I keep saying that we must be very careful what we wish for as we might get it!
I DO need rescuing at times. If it is only to do some DIY around the house that I can't do myself.
I never feel the need to do something myself if I really can't do it, and somebody much more able and willing can do it.
People want to be needed. And need to be wanted.
As for feeling wanted I want him to want me at least 12 hours a day.
I think lots of people are disconnecting from each other, based on perceived ideas of how you should behave, how much you should assert your independence etc.
I know I can live independently and support myself financially. I also know that I am mentally strong enough to support myself if needs be also.
But that does not mean that I wouldn't allow myself to be helped, spoilt and accept a shoulder to lean on when I am feeling down.
Because I would offer the same in return.
If only we could let things be, everything it could be.
Or the fact that were all over 50