Is old fashioned romance dead?
These days the internet and mobile technology has allowed us to meet people all over the world, messaging, Skype and these internet dating sites have become normal even to those of us over 50.I do miss the days when I would have to ask permission from a girl’s father, getting dressed up and taking her out for a meal, sending flowers the next day even if the date didn’t go well. Cards and letters? a thing of the past.
Instant messaging is great, but so is talking on the phone, hearing someone’s voice, listening to what they have to say can still give me a warm feeling.
Meeting someone in person for the first time after messages and phone calls should be exciting, the days building up to the meeting are full of nervous worries “will she like me” “will I like her”........Normally these worries are silly but it’s how it should be.
What would be your ideal first date? And do you think that technology has taken away the romance?
Comments (59)
Three days in a beached sailboat during a storm...playing Scrabble.
Being at the beach sharing food and talking...
No texting allowed...
Loulou...excellent first date, phones locked away!
Kariena...Nice and safe, and still old fashioned romance.
Mobiles have ended a lot...Ive seen pictures of young couples just sitting in a restaurant texting,probably each other!
That's probably not everyone's idea of a perfect first date.
Maybe not even mine...
It would depend very much on the person.
KNenagh.At least with a smartphone you can block these idiots
Leo....A reincarnation?
Mic..Perhaps if we find out what our date likes we can plan that perfect first date.
Getting stuck on a boat with someone for three day on a first date.... You may have mutiny on your hands... Good idea for later date... better than running out of gas...
We had already met and broken the ice and decided to date. The first date he collected me in his car, took me to a lovely restaurant and insisted, despite my protests, on paying.....lent over and kissed me a couple of times and held my hand, at times. I had his full attention and it was luverly....
I think social networking sites and technology has stuffed romance up a little....and why bother with the romance, if he/she wants to get it on....or off...
Give me old fashioned romance any day....
I find that some women (in this country) will go on a date with a man for a free meal... I do feel that this way you can see if you have a spark or not.... saving him money and me time
Berry..10 years! thats a long time ago, but old fashioned is best, maybe worth the wait?
Ian...Good points
2Bback..Its the same everywhere, free meal and drinks
Its good to see so many of you still like the old ways but with new technology helping us all meet.
Despite technology being a cold way of meeting people...sites like CS are good at helping people understand other cultures...and saves money on travelling...
I have been on this site for a few years now...people do come and go but some here are pretty decent people...
NB: my wheelie bin goes out more than I do...
Nice to see you here...hope things are good!!
All is well at the mo....thank you...
Lou..They come out at night, or on day release from some institution.
Politics are cruel...when you don't agree...lol...
Just the usual Friday night banter...
Thank god I never had to go through that experience...my Mom wouldn't let them through the door...waiting outside...wondering WTF...
I love a bit of romance and the first date would be totally up to the guy, if he is that attentive and that sweet then I would trust his juddment on an ideal first date, he can take me out anytime after his chat with my father
Mapmaker, tecnology has made it easier to meet people and stay incontact. I haven't had a date in years, can't even imagine anymore what it would be like. I don't think tecnology has taken away romance, it has just changed. I love it when you get a goodmorning txt, or a special video from that special someone that cant be with you. Internet has made it easier to send gifts. My parents had a LDR it must have been awful waiting weeks for a letter. Now we can talk, see those special ones doesnt matter where in the world they are.
You say you have not had a date in years, what would be your ideal date?
I prefer to see the person before getting too involved because I know I am picky with a capital P.