"TANGLED UP IN BLUE"
Come To Think Of It...There Is Absolutely Nothing Out There That Can Be Worst...Than A Long Distance Relationship Over The Internet..And By The Way...Which Mostly Can Begin On This Connecting Singles SightWhen One Comes To Realize It..Really... All It Was...Was A Few Telephone Calls..And A Whole Lotta Words That Were Typed On A Screen For One Another To Read(And A Few Pictures To Look At)
And Right Off The Bat...The Crap Hit The Fan
I Was On The Blogs A Long Time Before I Got "Tangled Up" With This Mis-Understood Person(She Wasnt A Bad Person By Any Means)..Just A Little Bit Too Much On The Possessive Side
What I Mean Is....Id Have A Blog Up...(And If A Female Left A Comment)Its Only Common Courtesy That One Replies Back To The Commenter..And All Hell Would Break Loose(Mind You..Were Half A World Apart)..Id Get A Private E Mail...Being Accused Of Having A Relationship With That Person(And There Are Some People That You Cant Convince That Its Not That Way)
(Example)..A Female Posted A Reply That Had The Saying "Namaste" Embedded In The Reply...And My Name Is "Nam"..Yep..Got A Message Accusing Me Of Secrets Codes Within The Word "Namaste"..... And
Having A Secret Relationship
And Then When(With The Typed Word)When I Try To Convince Her Otherwise..All Kinds Of Other Accusations Would Follow...In The Beggining..She Wanted To Send Me Money(I Wasnt Doing To Good At The Time)And I Said "No..Ill Be All Right"....Yet.. Up Until Today Ive Been Accused Of Using Her(How Can That Be?)This is Only The Tip Of The Ice Berg
In The Real World..If There Are Problems..One Can Physically Get To That Person And Have It Out(Usually..One Way or The Other...The Situation Can Resolved)
But Theres No Way In Hell That It Can Get Resolved With The Written Word Or A Telephone Call(That Just Cant Happen)
Its The Distance That Dooms Any Situation Before It Ever Begins..
I Would Say..That If It Werent For The Distance..Things Would Not Be The Way They Are Now
Roy Orbison Can Now Sing His Song.."Its Over"...(But Actually..Did It Ever Really Have A Beginning?
Most Long Distance Relationships Are Doomed Before They Ever Can Get Going..If The Distance Cannot Be Overcome..And If One Of The Two Arent Willing To Leave All They Know To Live With That Other Person
I Dont Hate This Person..But Im Sure(If It Can Be Done)Ill Be Drilled Into The Ground
Its Been One Accusation After Another..That No Matter How I Try To Defend Myself..Im Not Going To Get Through..Im Guilty And Thats All!!
The Distance And Lack of Money Is Chiefly To Blame
Not Me..Not Her
But..In The End..As Always..Im The "Bad Guy"
And Im Left All...."Tangled Up In Blue"
Comments (24)
As Ele Had said
Being Single..... Aint That Bad After All...........
And If I Were To Have Said That?
Id Have been Accused Of Lying All Along And being A Player
You Cant Win In That Kind Of Situation..............
A lesson learned, maybe.
Don't involve/invest too much, unless a meeting can be arranged....the sooner, the better.....before unreal expectations kick in.
JMO from my own experiences with online dating sites.
The Argument Ends Up being About Something Completely Different?
That..Ill Never Understand...................
Misunderstandings can and do occur frequently with online dating.
...and sometimes we invest too much, too soon, which is unwise.
There's mothing quite like a face to face, to start building on something that may be there. If not, each goes their separate ways. No mess. No fuss.
It could be due to the language barrier and maybe also not being on the same wavelength.
Speaking on skype may help..better than phone calls..as you can see the person's face and reactions and see if they have understood or not.
As for the accusations and possessiveness that's ridiculous as being on a dating site doesn't make you somebody's property and exclusivity. Otherwise both should delete their profiles.
What you Wrote?
Youre right
But Thats for Her To Read...Not Me
I had No reason Not To trust her................
I'd rather have the real thing, but I'll be hugging my trusty pillow for comfort tonight...
Nite all.
Until then I wouldn't trust anybody as I don't know them from Adam and trust has to be earned.
I wouldn't even classify online communication a relationship.
Berry
Minerva
Snooks
Youre All Right.......Maybe I shouldnt have participated In This Situation..Therefore..Im Partly To Blame I Guess
Just accept it as an EXPERIENCE ..neither good nor bad. .let go..forgive..put it behind and move on somewhat wiser.
"Its A Very Thin Line"
"Between Love And Hate"........................
Ive had 2 Blogs before ..One Was About Our situation The other Wasnt
She thought The One That Wasnt About her..WAS
Some How
Both Those blogs Mysteriously Disappeared(never To be Seen Again)
I Dont Know How
But They Ended Up GONE
So
Dont be Surprised If This Blog Suddenly Is Gone Also...........................................................................................................
Like with anything else in life All one can really do is count their loses and move on.
I Have to get A move On Right now
And start getting Ready
Got To be In Fort Wayne Indiana...For Monday...........
The Bad Guy Oney
Wait And See
"Its Always Calm"
"Before The Storm".................
"Tangled Up In Blue"
I Have A Blue shirt On
I Drive A Blue truck
And I Have The Little Blue Man...............
Gotta Go!!..................
Situations Such As This
Can Get A Bit Crazy.................
Money...mostly lack of it...complicates any situation and relationship!
So both these seemingly reasons ....seem more like excuses///on her part!!!
It seems too that she wasn't worth it...or all the effort!!
If there is a connection and then when meeting that vital chemistry...all other maybe issues should be worked through...
Be glad it didn't work out! I know ur happy single!!!...There are many worthwhile ladies out there!!!...The search will just continue....