Happiness
Happiness is a state of mind that cannot be achieved while you still yearn for something, be that material, revenge, love, fame or whatever.
Some people believe that love by itself can make you happy, but it is not so. Being in love only temporally blinds you to your other desires, but that euphoria wears off and soon you will have to face reality again. To be happy, you have to at peace with yourself, satisfied with your surroundings and reconciled with the fact that you cannot have everything.
This is why poor people are often happier than rich people. They can accept it easier that they will never own a Mercedes Benz or a large house while the rich always have another mountain to climb. Keeping up with the neighbors can be a tiring job.
There is nothing wrong with working towards a realistic goal, but as long as you yearn for something that is out of reach, you will continue to miss out on complete happiness, even if you have all the other things that your heart desires.
With revenge it is even worse. You cannot be happy while smarting for vengeance. It engulfs you in a cocoon of hate and even if you can extract your revenge in the end, it will not make you happy. Revenge is not sweet. It is an anticlimax that leaves you empty and without purpose.
So to be happy, you have to put your grudges behind you, accept the things that you cannot change, set reasonable goals, live in harmony with your surroundings, and most of all, be at peace with yourself.
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I'm happy simply because I can do these cartwheels here which I can't in real life without risking ending up in the hospital!
Hello Catfoot
Happy about making virtual cartwheels? Ok, if it works for you, then I'm happy too!
Yes, it is all about attitude and you have to work on your own happiness constantly. It does not come by itself.
And now my cup runneth over.
The Irish are building thousands and thousands of houses in South Africa for the poor. And very smart 2 bed-roomed houses they are, with solar hot water cylinders.
Nothing like those crummy little shacks without hot water or bathing facilities that can fit on a postage stamp, which our government builds for the people.
About work, I won't know. As far as I know they only co-ordinate and plan while local labor is being employed.
Having strong desires is a wonderful experience!
Clever the one who can have them fulfilled.
Happiness is given by life, or not..
No, I don't think it is sweet. I saw what it did to somebody. And when she finally got her revenge, she was an empty shell. All the years of hatred killed her soul. She died an lonely, unhappy old woman.
Hmm, and wise is he who aspire to reachable goals. They don't need to be easy, but they must be reachable.
So sad that so many people never learn or understand this life lesson
"If you are lonely when you're alone, you are in bad company." - Jean-Paul Sartre
Thank you for putting it perfectly
Right! Being alone and being lonely are not mutually inclusive. You can be lonely with a thousand people around you.
Once, all village people decided to pray for rain.
On the day of prayer all people gathered and only one boy
came with an Umbrella,
that's Confidence
TRUST
Trust should be like the feeling of a one year old baby
when you throw him in the air,he laughs
because he knows you will catch him;
that's Trust
HOPE
Every night we go to bed,
we have no assurance to get up alive in the next morning
but still you have plans for the coming day ;
that's Hope
So I wish U all HAVE CONFIDENCE, TRUST & HOPE
So true...
Bearing grudges and harbouring hate is harmful to oneself. Me... I forgive but will never forget why I had to forgive in the first place. If I don't protect my heart, who will...
Having said that, I'm still guilty of giving people more chances than they deserve, but once I'm done, I'm done. I never turn back.
Being at peace with yourself is far more important than trying to be someone you don't know and most likely don't even like. If you want a foolproof recipe for disaster, do things to please others...
Good blog
Real amazing South Africans...
Something to do.
Something to hope for.
Someone to love.
That last one...it appears to make one happy ONLY if it is an active verb...
something that the happy person DOES, not achieves.
Interestingly - and rather curiously - BEING loved had NO significant effect on making one 'happy'.
Go figure.
I see that I misspelled your name the previous time and I cannot even blame auto-correct for it this time.
BTW, I was born out your way. Empangheni! The only reason I can offer for that is that I probably needed to be near my mother. She was there at the time.
Are you Buddhist?
Yea, are we not amazing.
Exactly my point, Mic. Love per se is not enough to make you happy. You need to be at peace with yourself.
Nisery and suffering need not be a part of life. We make it part of our lives.
No, I'm not a Buddhist. In fact I subscribe to no religion, but if you look closely at any religion, you will find this theme embedded in in their dogma. If only the followers of religion all followed their real religious doctrine, this world would have been a much happier place.
Can we really call it love when it is not reciprocated?
Methinks in a lot of cases (when meeting someone new) it's infatuation - liking the person and hoping for more, but when building something up, for me only when there are mutual feelings it can develop into more. Otherwise it's a recipe for getting your heart walked over and over again.
Point taken.
When you are happy in your own skin then you have found true balance in your emotions.
Yes, what makes me happy may not make the next person happy.
I presume it's a good thing.
I suppose it might be if one is involved with a person who is actively loving,
one is in a relationship with another 'happy' person.
Which would make it easier to love on him/her...
And the wheel goes round and round...
I have been a bit out of circulation and I missed a lot of news. How is your honeydew? Still doing fine?
To make 2 people happy, it should be mutual methinks.
Contend is defined as satisfied. You sure need to be contend before you can be happy, but it contentedness in a wide area before you can be happy.