Life Makes A Complete Circle
The other day, when I had lunch with my father, I touched on a taboo subject. His latest girlfriend! My sister and I had a long chat about this beforehand and in the end it fell on me to speak to him. It is not always easy to be the eldest.
I told him she is up to no-good and the he should let her go. He looked at me with a somewhat amused expression and said: “Life makes a complete circle”. Then he took a small a sip of his wine and asked how many times I obeyed him when he told me to get rid of a girlfriend. He dismissed me by giving the answer himself. Not once!
However, he did assure me (without any further prompting) that she is nothing serious and that if he should be so foolish to marry at his age, he’d marry his previous girlfriend who now lives in Gauteng. The short conversation did not spoil the day and we continued to enjoy our meal. For a change he even allowed me to pay the bill.
I don’t mind him having a lady friend. My mother died 16 years ago and he did not bother with women until about seven or eight years ago. Since then he had three lady friends. The first two resembled my late mother, both in looks and in mannerism. The first girlfriend died and the second relocated to another province to be with her children. They still have contact.
Both these ladies wanted to marry my father and have approached me several times, asking me to work on my dad regarding this matter. Of course I politely refused. Not that I would have minded if my dad married one of them. They were good women and they cared about him, but I was not going to be the matchmaker.
His latest girlfriend is a horse of another color. She is five years my junior and almost 30 years younger than my father. We think that she wants to scam him. This woman is pretty, sexy and streetwise. And her eyes are way too busy. My sister noticed it as well. I try to avoid her as far as I can without being rude. I’m scared that my father may think that I’m the one making eyes at her.
Now, I don’t think my father is stupid, but he’s been exposed to very few women. My mother was his first girlfriend and the women I mentioned here, represent the total sum of his experience with women.
If she makes him happy, I don’t have a problem but I’m not going to see him scammed out of his money to leave him short in his old age. She’s not looking at carving a future with him. My father is 88. How much longer can he live? And why else would a good-looking, intelligent woman be interested in an old man almost 30 years her senior?
Am I paranoid or am I right to be concerned?
Hang in there. Tomorrow is Friday.
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Yes, go see him. You cannot see them too often.
What Happen To The Saying?
" Age Is Just A Number! "
Anywho! From All The Comments that I Have Read From Others. They Do Have Some Good Points. So! I Will Say.
What They Said!!!__
PS. She Is Just A Friend To Him.
And She Can't Marry Him! Without Him Agreeing To It.
Unless! She Get Him Drunk Or Voodoo's Him.___
So! If That Happen To Him. Just Get Ready To Call Her; Mom!
Mom! Are We There Yet?
Mom! Is The Dinner Ready?
Mom! Did You Wash My Clothes?
Mom! Happy Mother's Day__
Bob
Shiiit! Happen.___
" Kick The Pretty Lady! To The Kerb. "
Got dog! Good One.____
Fair enough, I won't like it too much either if my children interfered in my love life, bit I won't be too happy if I suffered a loss that could have been prevented if only they spoke up in time.
After these comments I have better insight to the problem and we will change our strategy somewhat. We shall soon know who she is and we'll take it from there. If she's good, then good for him.
So! That Age Thing! Does Matter___
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I should think so. Although I still have more or less the same body that I had when I was 24, I cannot do all the things I did then. And I cannot party all night any more.
I'm not even going to talk about loving all night.
you underestimate your Father,as Children often do,when their Parents are coming older.....also he looks to have a better fling with Women that his Son
I marry 2012 a 31 year old Lady and I was in that time 66,my Daughter was positive from beginning and my Grandson loved her,but my two sons had clear problem with her,before they met her,but when they met her,they knew,that everything was ok and that she is a good Person.
Her own Family was all together,when I met them....yes,to judge me and my Ex was very nervous in that situation,but after half a hour of talking,her Father stand up,took my hand and said,"you are always welcome to my House".
My Ex never was after money or any benefit and in her own words,"she only wanted me to be the Father of her Children"....I ask for the divorce,she did not want it and there was never even one word about money or any benefit and everybody in our Family know,that it was about Love and nothing else.
Specially when it is our Parents or our Children,we have to be very careful when judging....live and let other live
Rolf
everybody don't party trough the night,I have never done that,because I live a different life,but my Mother loved to Dance all the way to the morning,still as 75,with 40 years younger men and,that was not bothering me,it was her life,not my life
Rolf
Marriages where the male is much older is not uncommon. Professor doctor Christiaan Barnard is just one such example. He was known for his taste in younger woman and his forth wife was 41 years his junior. He was 60 at the time and she was 19.
If this woman loves my father and works towards his happiness, I don't have a problem with her, but she is not doing that. She is never around when she should be around. She is only with him when it suits her.
Many years ago I had an affair with a married woman who assured me that the marriage was over and the divorce was eminent. She came around when it pleased her and on the big days, she was never around. She is still married to her husband today.
This woman's behavior is consistent with that.
I'm not happy with the status quo and nor is my sister. We are convinced that she is not kosher and we'll get to the truth. And if she checks out ok, then I wish her all the the best with my father.
I hope she isn't pulling the wool over your Dad's eyes...but a little distraction shouldn't hurt...your Dad sounds like he is on the ball sort to speak...good luck!!
Well, I hope you're right. I don't sleep about this.
I wish I could share your optimism. I don't see any good coming from this. I'm worried!