Still Waiting For The Right One?
Then I have bad news for you. He or she may never come. That person does not exist and is not likely to be born in the next millennium. He or she is only a figment of your imagination.
Even if you should be lucky enough to find that 100% partner, there is nothing to say that you will meet the requirements of your target. Chances are that you may be totally unacceptable to that person.
You cannot look for your other half with preconceptions. Humans are not like new cars that you can have custom built. They are more like used cars. When you buy a used car, you have to look at what is available and make do with what closest to your requirements. If you wanted a tinted windscreen and there is none available, look for other extras.
You may find a job with an above average sound system to compensate. It is more important that the car is large enough for your needs and that the mechanics are in a good condition.
Like with any used car, you may have to put up with a few scratches and dents here and there. Maybe even a rattle or two. Oh yes, do have a look in the trunk. You are bound to find some old baggage there. These are things that can be fixed with time.
However, don't attempt larger modifications. If you wanted a sun roof, think carefully before you decide to fit one yourself. You may end up with a water leak when it rains or when you have your car washed.
And most of all, don't make unnecessary cosmetic changes. Bigger wheels will put strain on the diff and change the gearbox ratio on top of it.
There is no need to lower your standards. You only need to settle for something different that is of the same quality.
And remember to service your car regularly.
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For example; Someone looking for a good looking woman. But! The men isn't good looking himself. Or a woman looking for a handsome men. But! The woman is not good looking herself to match up with that handsome men?
And that the perfect person for them. But! Their not a perfect person to be with that Partner/ person!?
If so! Ain't there's an app for that!?____
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I have seen some very odd couples... and some of them are very happy. External looks are but skin deep.
And In Other Words!
We may use the word ( Perfect Person for me/ us.) But! I think that's just a figure of speech. So to speak.
In other words! Someone just fits just right to be with me/ us, them or whomever. You know what I mean?___
Hard to say. We all have our own ideas of that imaginary 'perfect person' while the right one may be completely different to what we imagine. I don't think we always know what we require.
Speak For Yourself!____
Hmmmm!___
Right, so often we think that a compromise is to surrender. If you gain something of more or less the same value of what you can't get, you're not losing anything.
I am speaking for myself. I can not tell how others feel. That is why I'm probing here.
Comparing cars to people is a Good comparison,
And am dozing off,
Sleep well!
I had the same problem last night.
Last longer these new versions are not made to last
I thought you were dozing off.
I may have found the right one but somehow I am still reluctant to go for it. If you put your hand in a hole and something bites you, you are scared to put your hand in there again.
Great word play. I love it.
Hi viking good to see you around
Eek!!
Did you say a DENTIST?
Thanks, and it's always good to see you.
I guess I'm lucky, I don't bleed much. But I don't know if it is lucky. Thick blood, I believe, is conducive to HBP.
I'm not sure. Remember, the 'right one' is only what we perceive. The other person may have a complete different perception of who is the 'right one' for him or her. One could argue that if the other person does not see you that way, he/she is not the 'right one' but I don't believe we all have somebody out there that is the perfect match. We have to adapt a little to make it work.
No one is perfect and I wouldn't try to change a person. You have to take someone as they are - or I would forget about it.
For me, having things in common with someone like values, similar background and plans for the future is what is important. I'm not hung up on the "outside" and a few scratches and dents.
Yep, for greener pastures.
Nice wordplay.
Yes, I fear we cannot change another person. Maybe for a while, yes but not for ever.
Its true that two matches have to light, not just one, and therein lies the difficulty, as you stated, Cat.
But as I get older, I no longer see them as a "life" partner, but someone just to share life with, whatever is left is gift.
I don't expect him to be handsome, la de da, just someone where somehow we spark.
Quite so. All that is required now is that little magic and a peaceful life. We have reached most our goals and have nothing to proof anymore. What we have not achieved by now will probably go a begging.
What's wrong?
I only marked some of the holes that one can fall into. but you're still young. You can afford to fall into one or two. You have plenty of time to recover.
The waiting game is not for the 'quick' hearted..
Best strategy!
a few holes. (good for the regularity)
This is what I'm trying to say. There is no point in waiting. If you can't get the one you love, love the one you get.
Break a leg!
just think how happy the baby will be going with you to the picnic and going home with his mother.
I think it is different if one talks about a virtual friend or a friend one meets in ones daily surroundings.
It's an advantage to have both, the one to have conversations with and the other to maybe also have expectations, and then both sides enjoy these.