The Argumentative Personality
(abbreviated version)Do you feel like some people you know enjoy arguing just for the sake of arguing?
Negatives
Here’s what’s not so great about the Argumentative Personality:
Habitual ‘argument stokers’ can drive you crazy, especially when you live or work with them; it’s hard to have a conflict-free conversation with them, even about trivial matters.
Many, if not most, of them have strong narcissistic tendencies; in other words, they are very self-absorbed.
They have little, or hardly any, insight into how their behaviours impact others.
When they come across people whose views differ from their own, they feel threatened, and go on the defensive.
They are chronic blamers: others, or the world, are always at fault.
Positives
There are minimal good points about the Argumentative Personality:
Being consistently at the mercy of an Argumentative Personality can help build motivation to stand up for yourself.
We can learn debate techniques from those who passionately defend their views.
How do I deal with the Argumentative Personality?
It takes lots of energy to defend yourself and maintain self-esteem when you have to deal with a person that sees you as the source of wrongdoing. Here are some suggestions on how to maintain your sanity when working or living with an argumentative person:
Comments (27)
I will read this blog later and come back before your woofed gone again
Like I mentioned the other day, I don t argue with those people, because they will overwhelm you with nonsense, and shock you with stupidity, I have better things to do with my time.
u can bear it after that listen like boring story
i mean ignored it.
Exactly. If we all agree with each other all the time - which can't truly be the case if we're being honest - then there would be no discussion. We'd just be a bunch of "yes-men" for lack of a better term. Discussion is the way to learn imo and I like that.
If we lived in a society of yes-men....the world would be even more dangerous as it is now...
Crucial to have people who go against the grain.....who stand up for what they believe in...
Jeez.....look at north korea as a prime example of 'yes men'......
There is a difference. I don't mind debating, just not with people who threaten and wanna lure other people into dumb arguments and fights that make no sense.
Indeed. N. Korea is an excellent example of a society where everyone (is forced to) thinks the same and they're going downhill by the second.
In my view, as long as one has thought through his stand and is willing to revise it need be, then I do not see why he/she shouldn't sustain his/her view.
The position taken by the masses is not necessarily applicable for me, even if it's the world against me and I certainly won't be changing it simply because most people took a different one. That's my 2p.
I like that we all have our opinions.. and that's great!
Nobody's completely right and nobody's completely wrong.
We're all a little different and that's what makes life interesting and fun.. the variety or as they say, the spice of life.
Have a great day Snooky and Tenner.. and everyone!
I refer to some of the argumentative people I've been subjected to as "trolls".Or even "Right Fighters" who must be always right regardless of the cost just as long as they are right.