Gramma's in an empty nest at 43
Every night wide awake, many times wondering how my kids are doing...Only 43 and I have a 4 year old granddaughter and a grandson due in a few weeks...
Where did the time go?
My oldest son, now 22, travels the world on business trips...used to be trips to the park riding bmx, seeing what crazy stunt he could do next.
My daughter...almost 21 and working two jobs as a single mom...remember her always cramming her studies, stressing that she might get lower than an A- ...smart honor roll student, she was.
Oh and my youngest...only 15, but in high school...seems like just yesterday, I was worried about him crossing the street by himself to go to his friend's house.
All the chaos when they were little, running around...all the worrying..crazy family trips...I do miss it now.
Day in, day out... So quiet, can hear a pin drop. Its been a couple of years now and I'm still cooking enough for a family of four...I have to divvy it up in Tupperware to use the leftovers throughout the week.
I've been a mother since I was 21, entering adulthood...been mom so long, now what's my purpose?
Seems a house was only a home when there was a family residing within. Now, its just an existence. I really need to find myself a hobby
Those with young children...or yet to have them....don't forget to enjoy every moment while they're young for it just slips away too fast before ya know it.
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Welcome to the club.
I, on the other hand, can't wait for my 2 kids to leave the nest. I have a 18 year-old daughter and a 17 year-old son.
With a bit of money in the savings, would love to visit some friends that are scattered all around the world once I'm on my own.
The man I'm currently seeing has been talking of setting home with me but that gotta wait until my son leaves home somewhere October next year.
This is just a very small fraction of what I've got. I have like 6 jumbo boxes of Tupperware that are totally new!
Sorry for the mess
Enjoy your travels and best wishes with your new love.
I have never been too overly attached with my kids even when they were very little. I didn't have any problem to be separated from them for weeks and at times up to more than a month.
My mom once asked me this, "You sure they are your biological kids, eh?!?!?!"
But on a serious not.... I think I will just drop dead when they are all gone , my heart rate is lethal for my health and when things have calmed down , it will just stop pumping ....
I would never want my children back in this country... Have not seen them for 13 years.... never met my grandson...
Love is in my hart.... and not my hands....
Next time you see yours hug them just a pit longer...
Good to see you back!
Are you pulled in for babysitting?
2B, sorry to hear that, any chance of visiting them?
No.... I am South African..... To much of a flight risk according to the Brits....
Cost me R20 000.00 last time to spend the day in lock up and get sent back.....
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Hope you will see them, maybe meet them somewhere in the middle for a holiday?
If I was remarried and had more children...I could or would be seen as less of a fight risk.....
NK.... One day....
But no....
they live in a part of the would where that can get jobs
My grandson goes to a good school...
My youngest son gets the best medical help...
That to me is priceless... and they have each other
Be happy for me and them....
One day 2B.
I miss the times I spent daily with my family, now my boys are 24 and 25, and flown out of the nest.
I hope you enjoy your time with yours still, and that you can solve all problems together.
Don't know how ya did it
..but they are not doing so well, healthwise. My sisters...3 of them no longer live here in state so theyre days travel away. My daughter works a lot so i dont see her and my granddaughter often, but once every month or 3...my oldest son, the same, hes always travelling, very busy...my youngest, at least every weekend, i do cherish the time. It is good to have that time with your mum, I'm sure it means the world to her :-)
I would love to babysit my granddaughter, but I think its too much trouble for my daughter...I live a town away, she commutes to her two jobs by city bus so her convenient sitting arrangement is closer to her.
..or does it have something to do with different cultures?
I'm the abnormal one.
you were blessed with children, a family. I don't have any kids and it does at times make me wonder where my time and years went to and always too busy to settle down.
Your kids may be away, but they are still in reach, and they are still your family always. I know you will love them and they will love you forever too.
No matter what else happens from this point in life on, feel good and blessed that yes, you have kids, a family, grandkids and lots of happy times still to look forward to.
I wish you and your loved ones great health, success, happiness, peace and love.. always.