Be Careful Of What You Write
In real life you have to place a guard on your tongue. When on-line, your tongue is pretty ineffective, but what you write (type?) is as good as coming from your mouth.
Writing reveals your soul. It strips your flesh bare to the bone for everybody to see. Your posts will confirm or contradict the narratives in your profile. Only one irresponsible post can rip your carefully composed profile to pieces. What’s the point of claiming to be a decent and peaceful person, while your posts indicate the opposite?
People will believe what you demonstrate in your posts, not what you claim to be in your profile. And suddenly your entire profile will be under scrutiny, because if you can lie once, you can lie again… and again.
The contents of your posts describe you much better than what any narrative in your profile can. It tells everything about you; it will expose your true nature, no matter how much you try to hide it.
May this day be the day!
Comments (49)
Hello Catfoot
I think having a look at the people they surround themselves with (and if they have genuine friends that are good people) says a lot about a person.
Oh by the way good morning i am in for the day the weather is terrible, so I will read, and then cook a bit----cook up a story which with chillies etc will be hot off the press
I was more referring to character flaws. Being a lousy cook is not a character flaw.
But some time ago you promised me a good Malaysian curry if I should ever visit your country. does that not require come cooking skills?
Yes, that too. Show me your friends and I'll tell you who you are. Birds of feather flock together.
I almost always fool around, but even then, amidst all the fooling, your true self will manifest itself.
Cat I know we only know what we want to know you know
missed you when you were gone and its good to have you back and that is all your gettin
So....when you're gonna come and try it?
You see only what you want to see when you're in love. Other times there is no excuse. You have to be good at reading between the lines. you mist read the blogs like a letter of recommendation. Look for what is missing.
I think those with three or four profiles only chat with themselves because so few others chat with them.
I'm thinking about visiting my daughter in Oz later in the year. I was thinking about making a stopover in Indonesia en route back home. Malaysia is close by, who knows.
I cannot speak for other men. As for me, I don't read all blogs, but those that I read, I read all the way unless it is very bad. I must admit to not reading all comments every time.
I think in real life I'm not as loud or outgoing as it may seem here, but certainly the same weird sense of humour.
You actually take the time to read profiles
I know I probably wouldn't even like their character if I met them, and I would certainly be in for a disappointment
We seem to have some disagreement here. I again believe that to some the cyber worlds is a place to live out the fantasies the cannot realize in real life. When you couple that with the apparent power of anonymity you get the arrogance we often see here.
No, I seldom read profiles. It is only when a blogger or commenter intrigues me that I would look at their profiles. And of course when I receive a PM from a stranger. I will look at the profile before I read the message. If the profile look phony, I delete the message without reading.
this goes back to my blog a few days ago. sometimes you engage in a conversation and after a few exchanges, the person turns out to be quite different than what the profile describes. And sometimes their correspondence directly contradicts the profile.
That is a bit of a catch 22. Just like it is sometimes hard to immediately recognize somebody talking themselves up, is equally difficult to see if the person is talking himself down. It is only when they contradict their profiles that one sees the light at first.
Likewise, when they confirm their profile, as you readily admitted, one assumes that this is how the person is. The knife cuts both ways.
Everyone tries to bring out their best. I think, this is natural for all.
But, it is even nicer I think to have friends with whom one can also share ones sorrows and depressions when they appear, and to whom one can also talk about ones lacks and misfortunes.
Have a fabulous day!
at the age of 36 I came across this quote " I am responsible for what I say and not for what you understand "
and when I realise that applies to most disagreements or arguments people have on political debates ,business operations and relationship issues.
This might sound absurd, as I'm sure that you've made more experiences along the way ,
than I have so far.
But this is absolutely how virtual communication works for me.
You, me all of us here ,can dress and display certain intellect and knowledge to social media websites.. at the end of the day it matters that as soon we close the door behind ourselves ,
it's me and only me who can look into the mirror and can
regonise myself without shame and delusions.
Books like that are right up my alley. I will get my hands on it when I get a chance to read again.
pitting your best foot in front is natural and nothing wrong with. But fabricating traits that don't exist is another thing altogether.
Maybe, but then maybe not. Either way, if it was aimed at somebody specific, then only he or she will know.
You have a point there. If I should make a statement like: "All those who arrived with the first bus are now seated", somebody is bound to interpret it as: "All those who are seated arrived with the first bus". I used this example before as it happened. It almost caused a panic as it was believed that none of those who arrived with the second bus were seated.
you know those mirror joints at a finfare?
I don't take my medication before my blog is completed. And when I want to fight with my ISP, I also do it before I take my meds. High blood pressure is a good thing whenyou have something to say.
I believe as people get comfortable wherever they are they have a tendency to start being their real selves aka "letting their hair down"! I know I am like that. I see people on here who are very loving and kind and then I see the real agitators who always have to have the last word! IMHO!
to some people it can be incredibly important to have the last say. You see, there is a psychology behind it. They believe that the last say wins the argument and nothing can be further from the truth. Empty vessels make the most noise.
sure thing, I thought you were kidding. I need more information though. Drop me a PM. I won't be able to do it straight away. I have very bad connectivity at the moment. I have been battling for how long now to get this comment posted. I had a massive fight with my ISP this morning but it is still the same. From 5pm till 10:30pm I cannot do anything on Internet.
I'm going offline now but as soon as my connectivity is restored I'll look for your PM.
Referring to Seri´s comment and her quote "I am responsible for what I say, and not for what you understand"...
I agree entirely with that as I made a comment on somebody´s blog a couple of days ago, following a friend´s request, saying "I have stopped my friends´list altogher".
Now I am being "accused" by the same person because I didn´t accept their request.
On top of that, I had temporarily accepted someone else - only temporarily! - so they could write to me as my settings won´t let them - and now I am being accused of being a "backstabber"!!! when I in fact deleted the friend in question.
Anyway, I don´t know if my profile and blogs, and comments on blogs are contradictory? I don´t think they are but, I still would like your opinion on that please?
I couldn't agree with you more.
Oh well except if it's posted on April the 1st.