The love thing
I have blogged on this before, but I never got an answer that made sense to me so bear with me. To get the right answer, you have to ask the right question, so I’m trying. (I know, very
)I’m picky, okay, and there haven’t been many men in my life. When it reached decision time, commit to sharing lives or call it a day, I have in the past tried to commit, and felt so claustrophobic the relationship crashed, or I’ve backed out, and felt mainly relief - along with loneliness and regret, of course. But always, relief.
I asked a friend if I was doomed to be single for the rest of my life and he said yes.
Bugger. Okay, well I've probably run out of time now anyway, but I do wonder what I’ve missed out on. See, I’ve blamed myself for not being able to fall in love but – what is love? Was I waiting for a Hollywood emotion that doesn’t exist? What IS it? 
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"The grass is always greener" .....but is it..
BECAUSE you are strong.....you can follow your heart....
The dream is always wonderful...but the reality...
I loved when i was 21 till 24...i know the feeling....
isn't in your control, even if you try!
It's like raising children, they're hope, they bring contentment and they are not suppose to be controlled.
I do know the times I backed away, I looked at what we had, and I thought that long-term it wouldn't be enough (because of the times I had tried instead of backing away). So hope was definitely missing!
Seems to me, anyway.
I will never give up on the thought, that i might find what i am searching for......one day........
Swiss Men are out of the equation......
And that's why it has always ended - because I stop liking the person I am when I am with them. Well, because of the claustrophobic thing I stop being likeable, I get moody and sulky and / or very polite. Not nice at all for them or me!
I do need passion. Not just passion between us, although of course that's very nice, but to believe passionately in something and work towards it together - that would do it.
I think.
hope is the last resource I cling to when things get rough, life, relationships and self doubt .
If life is challenging me, I have hope, because if I believe enough, I become brave and take on the challenge.
My relationship is struggling , I have hope , it can be worked out and if not ,I've tried....
If I ever doubt myself, it's the people around me, loving me for who I am that give me hope that I can change ..if I need to
Does that make any sense?
Two minds with but a single thought, two hearts that beat as one - I said almost exactly that at the same time as you posted
I've loved the sweetness (lovely phrase you used) but never been able to identify completely with the goals and desires, or for that matter had someone who shared mine. I think, I think, I'm beginning to see light.
NICE
"Being able to be the person YOU ARE when you´re with someone".
I certainly have loved many people in my life, but all in different ways.
However, I can´t remember being with someone who let me be WHO I AM. Maybe at first, but then the novelty wears out and all the qualities they were first attracted to they suddenly hold them against you and start putting you down.
At the end of the day, if this becomes apparent within the first few months, how on earth can you see yourself living with them for the rest of your life?
I think I need some down time, though. Been a hectic few years and high-speed crashing into walls has left a couple of bruises.
To me it is Acceptance,Attraction,Respect,Commitment,Trust,Attachment,Honor,Trust,Loyal.
Yes, that's also true. I don't think I try to change my man - well, only for the better -
My final thought would be, the luxury of being yourself around your partner, seeing right through them and still accept them for who and what they are.
That, to me, would define love...
You know yourself, though, it looks easy until you look at each word. They are pretty big words, making them lasting words is harder than it looks.
Thanks
It's always that for me, I have to be myself and they have to be themselves, or it is just tiring. Accepting is not the problem. Wanting to have a future, caring enough to want to be in this same place a long way down the line, that's the problem. Well, my problem. I'm the problem!
But I think it is when you are with the person that makes you feel like you are the best person you can be.
I guess we keep searching till we eventually die....
I know, don't look at my age and do the math.
Thank you for the compliment
You just hang in there, you have what it takes to be the be-all and the end-all of someone's life
What the heck, comment if you want, you don't need me around. Won't be long.
Good example is raising children. If we did not decide to have them, we would never know that feeling.
In all honesty, I strive to live and let live. But
I can deal with most things, insecurity is not one of them. To top it all, I’m as sensitive as I am passionate (what a combination
Unlike dead fish, I don’t go with the flow.
Adapt or die
I’m doomed...
Sorry Biff