What Are Your Views On Parenting?
Some of you may be familiar with the story of the seven year old Japanese boy who survived for six nights in a forest in northern Japan after his parents abandoned him recently on the side of the road in a forest as punishment for misbehaving,see the following links:
Here is a poem I wrote and posted on CS Poetry Corner.
Nature's Lesson For Parents
Author: socrates44
I watched a hatching baby chick
struggling to break free from its shell
that was its home for many days
but now was time to say farewell
Mom had pecked into the shell
a tiny hole to start the process
She did her part dutifully
Now the chick must do the rest
I felt sorry for the struggling chick
and could almost feel the pain
I wanted to break off the shell
thinking it would ease the strain
Then I remembered someone said
the chick must struggle on its own
to start its heart and lungs working
for it to become fully grown
I stood and watched as a miracle
unfolded right in front of me
All by itself the chick broke out
and stood there so cute and furry
There is a lesson here for parents
who are raising a family
Be protective of your children
but do not do it overly
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Posted: Tue Nov 19, 2013 11:15 AM
About this poem:
I actually witnessed this event.
I wrote this piece after reading a poem entitled "Too Much Love Can Kill" which pointed out that several children from middle class families end up killing themselves through drug use or suicide after they move away from over-protective parental control which imposes a lot of pressure on them to be super achievers.
What are your thoughts on parenting, particularly in today's society?
If you do not mind sharing, what have been/are your personal experiences of parenting your own children?
What advice would you give to a new or prospective parent?
Open Discussion Welcome!!!
Comments (14)
Wishing you well
Thanks for your kind comment on the poem,
my fellow poet and nature friend.
Thank you for your kind words
and the lovely picture introducing me to
rose crowned fruit doves.
Nature is my first love.
The message I got from the experience is to try to raise children within certain broad guidelines: not too tight but not too loose.
This same message was conveyed in a poster I had of a mare standing next to her foal with her neck stretched protectively over it. The message stated
“Love is not holding on too tightly”
The image below is similar to that on the poster:
When it comes to kids, I have none, but have a 3.5 yr old, and her 6 yr old brother come visit me, (the neighbors Grandchildren) They play with my little dog, have some potato chips. They spoil me with manners, laughter, and smiles,
You have a Great day My Friend,
Teaching them that for every action is a reaction, that every action has a consequence, and that they must take responsibility for these.
They must always know they are loved no matter what they do. They mightn't always be liked for doing certain things, but always loved.
Thanks for the lovely scenic picture highlighting nature in its glory.
I am glad you like the poem.
You are fortunate to have those two little kids to keep you and your dog company, bringing you happiness with their smiles and laughter.
You are right; the type of parenting childen receive usually influence the kind of adults they become although in some cases, it may not necessarily be so.
Take Care!
Thanks for your level-headed comment as usual.
“I think the key to successful parenting is teaching them right from wrong.”
In today's society, this may require a certain effort, in view of the effects of peer pressure, etc.
There may also be a need for parental discipline and even some form of punishment at times. This exercise which may be unpleasant to both parent and child must be handled very carefully.
The children in the Western society of now,have a very little chance to grow into real maturity,they are taken care of,like babies and followed by every step,even they are in the high school already.....I never call to my Sons in USA,after they had left from home being 14 and 18,but they call me all the time......they had learn already to take care of their life,but they openly missed me.
An other thing what I did too,I always bought a Home far from Towns or Willages,so that they had not much chances to meet many other Boys in a flock.......what did not make them physically sociable,where just spending time is the issue....they went into mental sociability,what grow with the time to caring sociability....in our Family we are very much loners,we don't like crowds at all and not many people around either,but we care heavily for all people in the world and that is for us the caring sociability.
Thanks for your comment.
I agree with your statement that
As early as possible,allow your children to make their decision by them self.
Some children may require a longer time to develop the confidence to make their own decisions. This process should not be rushed.
In addition, as Molly said, they must take responsibility for the consequences of their decisions.