What are you afraid of?
This always completely boggles my mind. Call me impulsive, call me foolish....but alas, I am a gemini and I do tend to act how I feel at any given moment, with how I feel. My emotions are often expressed freely....not sure if that is such a flaw, I guess it all depends on how ya look at it. Anyway....not to distract from the initial topic...What are men and women afraid of? This seems to be the biggest issue in dating on my end. Why must a couple start off as friends first? What is this etiquette in dating to "wait" for this or it's "too soon" for that...funny thing is, divorce rate is higher these days than it ever has been and many years ago, romance and chivalry ruled relationships and things weren't always over-analyzed like they are today. People fell in love without worrying about which steps to take when in the relationship...they used their hearts rather than racking the brains....and then, in staying together, they actually resisted the impulse to jump ship when things got rocky.
What are you afraid of....commitment? Getting hurt? fear of the thoughts of another of you? What's the big deal.....if the connection is there, it's there...why over-analyze....if it's not broke, don't fix it. Men (not all) want to have sex within the first few days but then say it's too soon for feelings.....well...but it's not too soon to give you everything physically? And this is why I don't get involved physically unless I'm in a relationship ....some will say anything just to get the physical gratification but when it comes to any kind of feeling or commitment, they start shaking in their shoes. What's wrong with people? Or is is me? If it is, then so be it....This is me lol....
...just off the top of my head so please excuse any grammatical errors
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The only fear I have is of not getting a visa to travel
I don't really want to comment about your post is simply there are speed of sound hookups out there, here, and everywhere, just let others deal with what they do within their own comfort zones. To judge is not to understand.
Regards and good speed dating....
Sometimes I feel as if all you folk on here have colluded against logic/rationale ....
bull aside... I'm getting the feeling that the vast majority of people from all walks of life actually DO believe in this absurdity. It's crazy in this day n age...
Thanks mate
Wazzup?
Enigma
I am sure another fear obsticle will come after I 9ver cone the mentioned one!
Fear kills senses. We may develop mental obstacles in situations that normally are not dangerous or with problems. Few things paralyze us stronger than fear. No one remained untouched by it, even the bravest warriors in history. The difference between normal people and those who seem fearless is that the latter have learned to control their fear, they use it to their advantage , they turn it into power.
As you said....Que sera sera
Do you know how to the "Bristol Stomp" dance?
The kids at Bristol are sharp as a pistol when they do the Bristol stomp. A song from the 60's.
Look at the presidency campaign usa.
Exactly, I'm afraid only of myself
But are you saying firstly that we are overthinking things, and should just go with the flow - physically as well as otherwise
And then saying that we shouldn't go with the flow without guaranteed commitment?
<<<The taurean bull in the China shop
Things were easy and just a given when I was young. We assumed things would go their way as planned and there will eventually be a happily ever after.
I became single in my mid-thirties and was in for a major surprise - suddenly I met guys with baggage that either don't want or can't have a relationship. But there are tons of guys that have no problems with climbing up on anything with a pulse (with some I'm not even sure about the pulse requirement).
There is no point in trying to change (or even trying to understand) imo. I know what I want and what I need to be with someone. The only possibility for me is to have a partner that actually WANTS to have a relationship, still be there when we're both old and grey, full fill EACH others wants, needs and desires...
There are not a ton of people that are compatible out there, but there are a few special ones, so don't give up and I hope you'll find him.
But I have been guilty of ignoring or misinterpreting what had been said.
Took me 6 years until I ran into someone that has similar values, standards and wants what I want.. It's not easy as his situation is stressful, but we both want to give it a go and I hope that circumstances and life don't get in the way. But we both want to be with each other.
There are a few good people out there.
Thanks for the good wishes Enigma, much appreciated. They are out there!
Just don't lose hope Enigma. On another note, if that one would end, I think I'll pack it in.