Is one of you a widower?

Yes, I reckon that does happen a lot. It would depend how long into a new relationship this goes on. Good to know someone cared deeply about a wife or hubby who passed away, meaning they can love deeply.

She will always be an important part of his life.
But if he moves on to a new stage, he will slowly start thinking and talking about the present and future rather than the past.

Maru...its human nature
we compared present with past
and mostly try to proves the past is better that present

A man walks out to the street and catches a taxi just going by.

He gets into the taxi, and the cabbie says, "Perfect timing. You're just like Frank."

Passenger: "Who?"

Cabbie: "Frank Feldman... he's a guy who did everything right all the time. Like my coming along when you needed a cab, things happened like that to Frank Feldman every single time."

Passenger: "There are always a few clouds over everybody."

Cabbie: "Not Frank Feldman. He was a terrific athlete. He could have won the Grand Slam at tennis. He could golf with the pros. He sang like an opera baritone, and danced like a Broadway star. And you should have heard him play the piano! He was an amazing guy."

Passenger: "Sounds like he was somebody really special."

Cabbie: "Oh hell there's more. He had a memory like a computer. He remembered everybody's birthday. He knew all about wine, which foods to order, and which fork to eat it with. And he could fix anything---. Not like me -I change a fuse, and the whole street blacks out. But Frank Feldman, he could do everything right."

Passenger: "Wow, some guy then."

Cabbie: "He always knew the quickest way to go in traffic and avoid traffic jams. Not like me, I always seem to get stuck in them. But Frank, he never made mistakes, and he really knew how to treat a woman and make her feel good. He would never argue back, even if she was in the wrong; and his clothing was always immaculate, shoes highly polished too. He was the perfect man! I never knew him to make a mistake! No one could ever measure up to Frank Feldman."

Passenger: "An amazing fellow. How did you meet him?"

Cabbie: "Well. I never actually met Frank. He died, and I married his widow"

Happy, you weren't talking to me so forgive me saying this, but we are none of us blank sheets, we are the products of our past. Our parents, our schools, our friends, our jobs and, yes, our partners, made us the person we are today.

The person we meet today wants to be part of the person you will be tomorrow - not dwell endlessly on a past they didn't share. If you talk only of your memories, you are saying to someone 'I don't want to move forward, right now I am happy where I am.'

And YES men AND women who moan endlessly about their exes are saying something as well - 'I am resentful, I am grudging, I am vindictive, I am unhappy where I am but I am staying here anyway'

Yikes

Elegs you are right I am happy where I am at today. Not because of the memories. But because of the life I have built for myself the last seven years. It would take someone really special to turn my head. And thank you for commenting. I have always heard the way to education is to get varying opinions and out looks.

Widower is the correct term for a man that has lost his wife.

widow is for women that have lost their husband.