The breaking of a heart !
It must be quite hard to be one of those people of whom when in their presence fell the need to make you feel small, Perhaps just to flesh out their own deflated and hidden nature. Like cats in a bird cage they would have your wings clipped to play with you on the ground while watching the dying of your light because they cannot comprehend the freedom of your flight.
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It is just an unfortunate side effect of loving
"Most people don't break hearts on purpose
It is just an unfortunate side effect of loving"
But I wrote of the ones that do!.
It makes you feel different, and it can hurt differently.
As for people who hurt on purpose..they are simply not good people.
If you date somebody you care about, you won't hurt them on purpose.
I agree,
We are all prisoners in that same cage.
The eagles once wrote in a song.
"Oh, and it's a hollow feelin' when
It comes down to dealin' friends
It never ends"
The older I get the more these words become me !
I bet you could lay down some darned good prose..
Have you ever given it a go. I think you should.
No matter what the subject, there will be people will read it.
And I applaud anybody who puts their thoughts and dreams out there
I sense however, a sideline on this issue surrounding your blog Non. Could it be that a platonic label is way off on the motivations of these people living together? Perhaps, they do truly care and love each other with all the emotional and logical entanglement yet too proud to admit it?
I don't know my friend but I hope you are not in one of those entanglements.
I still think you should give it a go.
You have a way with words you should try master it.
Just write about a sunny day or something simple, I bet it would be a novel in no time.
And Molly,
in no way am I implicating that you never shut up.
Yes that's a very astute observation.
A Cathy and Heathcliff kind of love
I can see that in the writing, now that you say it.
No my friend I am not in one, I have just witnessed one to many and wonder why someone would act in such a manner.
Is this were the saying comes from .
"Treat them mean and keep them keen" another idiom I find it hard to fathom. How can meanness be the mechanism by which someone would think of gaining the respect of another.
Just thoughts my friend
Having said that, a good friend of mine was a prisoner of her own demon for 15 years. Now that we can look back, we smile about it and she's become a great advocate or counselor after going to school.
What she told me us that there are some out there who are not aware that they're the victim. Instead they coil to their own weakness and feel obligated that it's their fault. They're emotionally incapable of seeing them as the victim.
With the help of counseling she was able to see what I've been telling her since day one.
from what you say it seems easy to become twisted by another's words or actions when we wish to remain ignorant of our own hurt,
Its a kind of dishonesty to the self and perhaps that twists us even more.
Self destruction by proxy of ones self denial,
Now that is one hell of an oxymoronic state of mind
Sad but I think we all know someone who fits that description,
And maybe unbeknownst to us we may be that person too.
As for your aunt. Have you ever wondered why she is that way with you.
Perhaps she is Jealous.
When we see others in this situation, we may need to be so gentle and ease them very caringly. And even that is not easy.
What a very well thought out and well written response.
I agree very much with what you say and as of yet you are the first in my eyes to see what I was trying to say, When in a relationship we are in a cage of sorts with that person or people. we become wrapped in each other and often blind to each other too. Blame is a pointless exercise,
It will restrict our vision of moving forward with the expectation of the other person doing so as the blame puts an ownness on them to do so.
Another case of people giving away their power an responsibility perhaps.
I do like your use of Cathy and Heathcliff by the way
I respect that you go through this stuff with friends
cheers buddy
karma,
Shoot them all an let god sort them out.