Change? oo-er.

This rush of blogs about the change in layout got me to wondering why so many of us resist change. And what will we do if we meet someone? Because that would be change, for sure.

So this is a question for those actually looking to meet someone (because yes, some are here just for the virtual equivalent of Cheers, where everyone knows your name) (Norm!)

Would you be looking for a slow adjustment - meeting every other Thursday for coffee, then slowly slowly stepping that up to other outings, plus an occasional takeaway at his, or a home-cooked meal at yours (or of course the other way round) until a year or two down the line you suddenly realize you're spending more time together than apart?

Or a sudden whirlwind, swept off your feet, blown out of your quiet life into a thrilling breathless gasping new world?

Or something like a long-distance relationship, where you have the whirlwind weekends but the peace and quiet of your familiar life in between?

Or just waiting with interest to see what life has in store ...

For me, perhaps the last option. Just wondered if anyone else had thought it through a bit more.
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i,M IN a barrel.......just drifting along........is that a waterfall.......just around the corner........????????dunno dunno roll eyes roll eyes rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing
Whirlwind, waterfall - okay, so you're hoping to be swept off your feet. A man looking forward to living dangerously!
When I joined cs first I thought the site was a navigation nightmare .... Seems after all these years I'm proved to be right. I can only hope the same can be said about the recurring day dream I have about Farrah Fawcett and my new bionic parts.
Hi, lt ls a very good question and lt often amazes me how

Many people go on about their partners ln their blogs and

How many quizzes / forums / etc. are geared towards pick

Up lines and more often than not discussing different

Positions and Techniques. Many people believe that those

Who talk about it the most are actually the ones who are

Practising the least (only talking lt up to cover up the void

In their shallow lives

#Empty Vessels Make The Most Noise#

Good Blog. :thumbs up: Manuman7#
Non, I also like the new layout, only a few slightly clunky bits.

Fingers crossed for FFM and, er, the success of the bionic bits. wow popcorn
Change is always difficult but I think that if you've experienced change, as we have in a major way, Biff, adapt a little easier.

Having said that...Red, who moves home nearly every year, is having difficulty with the site change laugh Sorry Red, not having a dig, you just disprove my theory laugh
Manu, thank you!

I do notice people are ducking the actual question of what they'd like developing from that first spark of interest. laugh
Noooo!! Don't get me wrong. I was just wrong footed. I love the new user interface. I was so busy exploring that I have not had the chance to read any blogs. I think they did a wonderful job.cheering applause
Unlao, yup, we the uprooted do go with the flow more, I think. Although I cart my junk around with me so wherever I hang my hat, as long as it is on my hallstand, is my home.

Do you think of Ireland as your forever home? Actually not a good question with winter looming laugh I know January finds me every year determined to find somewhere warmer, drier and brighter to live.

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laugh I've carted all my stuff with me too....although I have to say I've downsized considerably (still have stuff in storage...I forget what rolling on the floor laughing )

I don't know, to be honest. I think that the weather is very tough to age in and I'd love to say that I'm going back to SA but that's less likely by the day moping

I don't even mind the cold so much, it's the darkness that really gets to me
Cat, one sentence about the changes, the rest of the blog was about relationships and the changes they would bring!

Like, in your case, finding a new singer grin
Unlao, the darkness, YES. Clocks going back (another Change) is a shock every year. One day I'm throwing the ball for the dog while walking her after work, the next it is too dark to see the ball and she's glaring at me like it's MY fault I'm not home while it's still light.

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Yes! I was with a friend and her 7 year old son today. He was complaining that it was nearly night time....it was 2pm. The time change always throws me....always! Suddenly the evenings are really long, I don't like it sigh

Now...on the other subject, I wouldn't live with a man or marry one again, so change on that front would probably be minimal, if it ever happened.
Z, well, phew. batting

But I'm still going to have to say that I like Windows 7 and am resisting the free upgrade to Windows 10 laugh not because I dislike change, I've just heard too many people complaining bitterly about it, at least at first. My attitude to software is if it ain't broke, don't fix it until it is. (And wait as long as you can so the first generation has the bugs ironed out)
Windows 7 & a smart phone moping you'll be telling me next your car doesn't have a starting handle doh laugh
Wtf is a starting handle? conversing
Un, never say never. Otherwise are you up for residency in that island we're going to get one day? laugh
Z MY car doesn't even have a key snooty

rolling on the floor laughing
Distance suits me well, around 100km seems ideal. Why they all think I want to hear derogatory stories about their ex's, I dont really know.
Un, doh it's the handle you use to crank start the engine professor I'm starting to suspect yours must be one of those modern types with an electric starter sigh laugh
It depends on where it is...do we know where it's situated?

Will there be whiskey? Lobster?
rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing Oh that, Z!

I have a key for mine
Un, we're drawing up the list right now but yes, lobster is a definite, it's an island after all. And rocks, for mussels. Mild climate with a brisk short winter and long relaxed spring / summer. That's pretty much first on the list.

Whisky will be a home-based industry, or imported. Irish or Scotch? There'll be a weekly ferry to the mainland. Lots of fab little houses just the right size for one, with a village atmosphere, and definitely a village green. Non-cricketers will have to learn to play, if enough Americans apply we will also learn baseball for lazy Sunday afternoons.

Not that I think about it much, of course grin
I'm going to go straight into it grin

Well, after the first coffee date at least laugh


I don't want a long distance relationship. I want to be able to meet him regularly, and have lots of fun and good times together joy cartwheel joy
Right, I'm in Biff! It sounds divine smitten
Un, keep an eye on the classifieds, when we see the place we get it!
I'm not really sure, I dont tend to plan that far ahead really.
Bril, I'll be watching like a hawk...bring it on! cheering cheering
Pat - so you haven't drawn a 100 mile perimeter on the map around you, and looked only in that radius?

We're all a bit rubbish at planning, I suspect. sigh

Mind you I doubt anyone would actually put their hand up to attending the funerals of rich women with a darling little black hat, a flattering outfit, and a determined gleam in her eye as she offers her sympathies to the wealthy widower ...
I haven't as definite a radius as Pat, but I think an hour away would probably be around the limit .

I could last an hour if pushed grin
Nah Biff I havent. Mainly because we measure in kilometres not miles, and 160km is a bit too far away.
Molly I have every faith in you, you've lasted a couple of months so far and are coping perfectly brilliantly. Proud of you laugh

When Pat moves to Ireland you will have to find him the perfect place about, hmm, 45 minutes away? With train and bus options in case the car burns out with all the high-speed dashing back and forth.

Oh help I'm being bossy and managing again. Think I'd better go now.
laugh Biff., you are some organiser laugh


You should ask him if he wants to live by the sea, mountains, town or city, so I can start searching for the perfect place


(Pick sea, pick sea!)
Come to the island! (Of COURSE I picked sea laugh)

I'm such an organizer I just nipped upstairs to the bathroom and only when I looked for loo paper remembered that the giant economy pack of a dozen rolls I had bought was still downstairs in the hall waiting to be brought up. doh

Er, not that I want you to lose faith in my ability to organize important stuff. uh oh
When I met someone when I was younger, we simply got it together and spend most of our time together.

I was never as long on my own as I was until this year, so I was wondering if it would be more difficult to get used to having someone around. I'm used to lots of time (and diy) on my own, so it's strange to have less time. When we started off, we both were on the same page in what we want, but had little time to spend together - only once a week and I found it hard to built up a connection seeing someone that rarely.

We made it through all of that and spending more time together now - it wasn't a teenage whirlwind but we still can cause quite a stir. heart wings
I see Pat has conveniently disappeared. ..probably permanently crying


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Oh baby, we have been through this before. Daddy has to go to work. ..
As long as you bring home the dosh, I'm happy joy cartwheel joy


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KN, that sort of goes with my last option, sometimes the differences feel unsettling. If the last relationship was at high speed, does one slow down the next one? Expect full-on again?

Sounds like it is happening very organically with you two though hug
Can't help but notice my blogs do better without me so wave

Molly and Pat, let me know if you need my input but you seem to be working things out nicely so I shall maintain a tactful distance.

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