Change? oo-er.
This rush of blogs about the change in layout got me to wondering why so many of us resist change. And what will we do if we meet someone? Because that would be change, for sure.So this is a question for those actually looking to meet someone (because yes, some are here just for the virtual equivalent of Cheers, where everyone knows your name) (Norm!)
Would you be looking for a slow adjustment - meeting every other Thursday for coffee, then slowly slowly stepping that up to other outings, plus an occasional takeaway at his, or a home-cooked meal at yours (or of course the other way round) until a year or two down the line you suddenly realize you're spending more time together than apart?
Or a sudden whirlwind, swept off your feet, blown out of your quiet life into a thrilling breathless gasping new world?
Or something like a long-distance relationship, where you have the whirlwind weekends but the peace and quiet of your familiar life in between?
Or just waiting with interest to see what life has in store ...
For me, perhaps the last option. Just wondered if anyone else had thought it through a bit more.
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Entertain me
When did everyone else get a life? I want one too!
She wasn't forced into anything, she met him on line and they talked a lot on Skype and then told the families they would like to take it further, both families still lived in India and took over very efficiently. She flew in from Edinburgh and he flew in from Dubai for the engagement / wedding, then she went to Dubai.
That's 4 years ago, we keep in touch on FB, she's very happy and midway through producing second child.
But yeah, would I have the courage? Never!
IF I didn't fancy him physically, it may be doomed before it began
Unfortunately, with this current LDR, I can only wait....... patiently
Molly
I'd go with being swept of my feet with no time to think..too much thought tends to spoil things.
I've had 2 whirlwinds, and a slow grower which finally turned out to be growing in a way that didn't sit well with me, so I guess I like pace too
The greatest force known on this planet.
It will be worth the wait you'll see
After waiting forever to meet, you have an amazing time together, then one has to leave again.
I couldn't deal with that.
This sort of arrangement will not be permanent. Once my son leaves the nest, I'll hand the house key to his dad and I'd just go to whomever my heart belongs to...
It just wasn't possible to do it this time round. I did find it sometimes difficult to not see each other as often as we wanted. We are on the same page though and things are going well.
Think main thing is if 2 people just want something similar and both of you are comfortable how things develop between you.