lanceblake
lanceblake
New York, USA
Nov 2016
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Why people commit adultry

Can someone explain why married couples feel the need commit adultry. Sadly I'm newly wed almost one year. And based on my husbands reputation I started having doubts and yes I decided to check his loyalty. I created a profile and boy did he fall for it. I sat across from him typing away while he replied on his phone. I acted very normal as he flirted away and arranged a s*xual meeting. All the time I watched for looks of guilt when I looked at him and said I love you. Nothing. In the end I passed him my computer and asked what he thought. Claims he knew it was me all along. Which is bull as he admitted this morning. I ask why and never will have a answer. Now I ask strangers to guide me in why. Yes I can list the pain hurt, but no need to do that I'm sure all can imagine. My questions are why and what's my next move. I don't look at him they way I did.
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namaron
namaron●Seekonk, Massachusetts USA
Nov 24, 2016●1,658 Blogs●20,975 Comments
#1
"The First Cut Is The Deepest"

The Second Time?........"Shame On You"

Endure The Pain of Knowing...Its Not Ever To Be The Way it Was

And Know That Its Not Ever Going To Work Out

As You Will Always Be Suspicious..... From Here On In

(You Certainly dont Want To Live This Way...Now Do You?)

Not Me..Thats For Sure.......................................................................

detective
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cheavyonline today!
cheavy●chico, California USA
Nov 24, 2016●2 Blogs●580 Comments
#2
Wow.
For the first year, I have not even gotten out of bed yet!
Obviously you know what turns him on!!
I would ask myself the question, why did he want to marry me?
Am I rich?
Am I connected??
I would ask your self the same question.
When you answer those questions, I am sure you will know what to do.
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johnjjmonline today!
johnjjm●co westmeath0000, Westmeath Ireland
Nov 24, 2016●5 Blogs●1,312 Comments
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now don't see why you would be doing that checking if your just married even been here seems a little strange best you tell him you don't trust him sort it out or you will be left drive him away
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loulou77
loulou77●Vancouver, British Columbia Canada
Nov 24, 2016●71 Blogs●5,968 Comments
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If you are not in an open relationship and it has only been one year of marriage...leave if you cannot get past his indiscretion...it will only get worse...imo...

Setting someone up...what did you Expect?... dunno
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Nathan1967
Nathan1967●new york, New York USA
Nov 24, 2016●3 Blogs●88 Comments
#5
Are you meeting his needs?

Are you sure?
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Proficiency1
Proficiency1●Montego Bay, Saint James Jamaica
Nov 24, 2016●1,188 Comments
#6
My first thought, why tempt your husband?
Why are you so insecure after just a year of marriage?
You created the problem when you decide to tempt him.
Most men are turned on by what they see and if you get your husband aroused enough, he is only human, what do you expect?
Though he probably love you, don't you think it's unfair to put him in such a precarious position?
I am not agreeing to what he did because that is so wrong but sometimes we create a pit for our relationship/marriage then we cry for dear life.

Just saying.
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Nathan1967
Nathan1967●new york, New York USA
Nov 25, 2016●3 Blogs●88 Comments
#7
I think it's beautiful, that your husband fell in love with you twice. And we know it's not superficial because you even tried to trick him with a different picture!
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lanceblake
lanceblakeOP●new york, New York USA
Nov 25, 2016●6 Comments
#8
Sorry to the lady that thought I was doing wrong with my august blog note that was 2015. I met my husband online in October 2015 married feb 2016. Maybe online dating was never the way to go in first place?
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KNenagh
KNenagh●Aachen, Kilkenny Ireland
Nov 25, 2016●3 Blogs●3,678 Comments
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There are people that simply want to jump up on everything available. Saying his ex and himself did have an open relationship would have been a reg flag for me.

I can understand that you checked if you had doubts. You know the score now and it's up to you if you can live with it and accept that this is his character and what he likes to do.
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lanceblake
lanceblakeOP●new york, New York USA
Nov 26, 2016●6 Comments
#10
Thanx for all comments. It's helped me a lot in coming to terms with this situation and what I'm to do going forward. Sadly good lessons are the hardest.
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unlaoised
unlaoised●Twilight zone, Wicklow Ireland
Nov 26, 2016●1,614 Comments
#11
Good luck, LB, whatever you decide hug
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Juicer24v
Juicer24v●Hoogezand-Sappemeer, Groningen Netherlands
Nov 27, 2016●60 Comments
#12
lanceblake, did you marry him for his money and then set a trap giving you grounds for a divorce? The sneakiness of some women never ceases to amaze mescold
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Juicer24v
Juicer24v●Hoogezand-Sappemeer, Groningen Netherlands
Nov 27, 2016●60 Comments
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You tell them unlaoised, I got your backsmoking
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unlaoised
unlaoised●Twilight zone, Wicklow Ireland
Nov 27, 2016●1,614 Comments
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wink Jimmy
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Juicer24v
Juicer24v●Hoogezand-Sappemeer, Groningen Netherlands
Nov 27, 2016●60 Comments
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laugh
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myhome
myhome●Pinetop, Arizona USA
Nov 27, 2016●6 Blogs●1,729 Comments
#16
We must remember there is two sides of the story..peace
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ashlander
ashlander●In God's Hands, Oregon USA
Nov 27, 2016●3,804 Comments
#17
I hoped my observations are deemed logical, and under the circumstances,my preference to not advise on the topic of sorting out an adult's future online as good (legal)counsel.This situation may directly effect the other family members in a very serious manner,as she claims HE is aware she blogs here -in HIS name ?
A "victim" could be any and all persons, depending on the participation ..including her readers.CS blogging can not sort it out, anymore than any other social media. Even privately mailed responses have been exploited when
" taking sides".
There's heartfelt interest in sharing burdens,but committed friends might better sustain someone in a dire need.
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